XH and moped - update

[UpNorthAgain]

Hello everyone,

I though those who were kind enough to comment on my thread last week might like an update. Apologies, but I don't know how to link to it. Basically, my XH was holding our daughter's moped hostage in his garage 200 miles away.

My father wrote a lovely, thoughtful letter to XH's father, appealing to him as one grandparent to another to get XH to cooperate. DD also emailed her dad asking when it would be convenient to have moped collected. He seems to have finally given in, and is saying that he will deliver the moped to UpNorth Towers next weekend.

However, in the email he sent to DD he also wrote two paragraphs trashing me to her, and accusing me of living a lifestyle of sybaritic luxury on her child maintenance . This is because I've recently had to get the CMO to enforce a deduction from his wages at source as he was deliberately underpaying me, according to their calculation. I'm really upset that XH would drag DD into our money disputes like this, as I'm very careful not to criticise XH in front of her, or tell her any of this shit my difficulties with him. I has a long, calm talk with her, and she seems to have seen through his manipulation and to be disgusted by it. I can only think of him in terms of four letter words now!

Thank goodness he is your ex!

You sound like a lovely mum. Happy mother's day

Thank you, Eminado. I try my best, and I'm so grateful that my dad is around to provide DD with a positive male role model and to make up for her dad being a w@nker

Happy mother's day to you, too

Excellent news on the moped:)

From what you said prior about your Ex it comes as no great shock he'd resort to telling your daughter lies.

He really is a knob! Well done you.

The Four Letter Word.

But good that you're getting it back - or at least that he's now hoist with the promise of it.

As it's 200 miles away, I hope that you won't have to 'entertain' him at the end of his journey at all? I wouldn't even want to see him myself.

Glad it ended well but would suggest, given that your DD is old enough to have a driving licence, you should probably talk to her more fully about her father's personality. It's not badmouthing to tell the truth.

cozie his parents (who want nothing to do with me or DGD) live thirty miles away, so they can 'entertain' him, thank God.

Cog I don't have to talk to her about her dad's personality; he is revealing it through his actions, PA behaviour and lack of interest in her. He is hoist by his own petard. DD also knows - because I've told her often enough - that I will always be there for her.

She asked me what I was going to spend the 'extra' child maintenance on. (It's not extra, of course, just what I'm legally entitled to.) I told her hot tubs and gigolos which she laughed at.

[grin ]