Is she being bullied? Should I do something?

[WilliamMunny]

So, at the office I work one of my colleagues often gets a bit belittled. For instance, if she drops something people will say 'typical stupid woman' and such. And she is often made to get coffee etc. etc. She has become more and more timid in her nature, and last week I overheard her crying in the closet (at least she sounded like she was crying) So far, I have stayed out of this situation and not done anything, however I feel I should probably help her in some way. The office job is only a temporary job I am doing while at university, so should I just stay out of the situation and leave others to deal with it. Or should I do something?

If I get involved, is it patronising? Should I just focus on progressing in my own career?

Talk to her.

Or email HR about the sexism/bullying in the office, outlining what you have witnessed and ask them to resolve the situation as you feel very uncomfortable working alongside the bullies

Ok. I will do my best. I am aware that this situation could very easily backfire.

I mean doing something about the situation could easily backfire. That being said, I do feel obligated to do something.

Just be factual and low key when logging the incidents. You can explain that you are logging them in confidence.

She probably won't be the only one on the receiving end, there might be others

It also might be worth telling the girl afterwards to help her be prepared for any HR discussion.

What would you do if you saw someone being physically punched?

Would you intervene or walk on the other side of the road?

Your colleague needs support (you have heard her crying). Is there any way that you could take her for a coffee/lunch and tell her than you will support her if she chooses to go to HR? I believe in empowering the individual if possible.

Even though you are a temp, it doesn't take away your human kindness, personal expectations and standards. By posting your dilemma here, you have clearly shown that you are caring person who wants to assist a colleague in the best way possible.

Of course you can always speak to your agency about 'bullying in your workplace' and seek guidance from there. Agencies set standards for temporary employers - and a safe, secure working environment is a basic requirement.

I hope you find a way to support your colleague. I also wish you great success in your university course.

:( it does sound like she is being bullied. I can't stand bullies. I would report it. Not just for her but for the work environment too.

You sound very caring OP.

It's a 'Good Samaritan' situation. It takes courage to stand up for someone and risk the mob turning their attention on you instead, but it's a morally better position than letting bullies have free rein.

Suggest you stand up for this person on the spot if you can. Others may as be as unhappy as you are with the behaviour but joining in out of cowardice. If you're too intimidated tell someone in a position of authority that there is victimisation going on. If nothing happens mail the next person up the chain.

If it was me I would have to act and intervene somehow. I think if you dont you will feel guilty in the future. Sometimes the people who turn a blind eye are perceived as being as bad as bullies xx

bullying AND sexism. Yes.

Next time they say "typical stupid woman" you could try saying something non-confrontational - which shows both her and them that it's unacceptable.

But if you can't do that then yes, report the situation, or offer to go with her to report. Your support could mean a lot to her.

We've had too many generations of bullying and everyday sexism - people like you are the best of the future. Well done xx

Agree with cog

I work in places that attract bullies.

Often these situations can be a bit Emperor's New Clothes. Everyone knows it is wrong but nobody has the balls to say it first. When one person stands up for what it right then others are willing to piggy back on it. I am often the first. It is satisfying when everyone else picks up the new vibe and runs with it.

Of course if one of the bullies is very powerful in the organisation, you'll probably get fired. I have been in that position, only once though. I got fired and walked out with my head held high. Everyone knew the truth. Bully was kicked out soon after. I can look in the mirror. I wouldn't change a thing.