Am I becoming a wimp?

[Austin316]

So, yesterday at my university, I was eating lunch and one of my friends came and sat with me. She has been quite upset as her father recently passed away. Anyhow, we were talking and she was saying about how when she was upset when she was younger, her father used to give her a hug to make her feel better and that she was now missing that. So I asked her whether she would like me to give her a cuddle and she said 'Yes!'. So we hugged and it was very enjoyable. However, I cannot help feel a sense that if I become too much of a hug person, I will lose my drive and competitive nature. So, next time she or others are upset, should I just get up and walk away, give them some space and leave them to their own devices?

I don't know...are you Darth Vadar?

What an odd way of thinking

Unless you're Samson and they take a lock
Of your hair with them I think you're fine

What do you mean?

Christ you're over thinking this.
You gave someone a hug. Made them feel better. Gave you a warm fuzzy feeling for helping.
Move on.

I could ask you the same thing.

To monkeysaymoo, I am talking about people outside of my family. As friends are important but in today's day and age, friends will turn on you (or try to!), sooner or later. The only people you can trust are your family!

(Not referring to dysfunctional families where abuse happens, just the loving kinf)

Just have a pie and a pint.

Nope sorry you still sound odd.

Okay...............

If your 'drive' depends so much on emotional and physical distance I'd say you had bigger issues to worry about!

Are you normally a cold person?

If you think losing your competitive nature and drive is worth losing your compassion and humanity over you don't sound like a nice person.

You're a loony

The only people you can trust are your family!

May Heaven preserve your innocence OP.

Skeletor, why are you posting on mn??

Skeletor is posting on MN...

friends will turn on you (or try to!), sooner or later. The only people you can trust are your family!

Let me guess - a family member has told you this, repeatedly and with emphasis?

if I become too much of a hug person, I will lose my drive and competitive nature.

Who taught you that drive is incompatible with compassion?

Think about it. The world's full of kind, caring people with the true and trusted friends they deserve. These people are not all lazy cowards; indeed, some of them are outstandingly brave, driven, innovative, and win a lot.

Somebody's been misleading you. Either their own emotional damage leads them to believe these rather tragic fictions, or they're motivated to keep you close and ensure you never have true friends.

The only other explanation possible is that you were off your face when you posted and, by Sunday morning, will have a hazy recollection of writing some shit on a forum but no idea what or where.