For those who's mothers contradict every word in every mothers day card.

[MummyBtothree]

My dear mum. The one who gave me an amazing childhood yet turned on me as soon as I developed my own mind & personality. The one who couldnt even grant me with eye contact, never mind a compliment or a word of encouragement or praise. The one who told me she hoped I never could have children. The one who crushed any scrap of self esteem or self worth I had. The one who's completely screwed my head, heart and soul up. Yet I still love you with all my heart and would give anything to speak to you even though to break contact with you was self preservation. Happy mothers day mum.

Why don't you tell us what your mother has done op? Get it off your chest! Whatever has happened all sounds pretty raw.

My own mum didn't do a great job but she had a poor childhood herself. At least I never for one moment doubted that she loved me.

Thank you for starting this thread. I wish I'd looked for it before starting my own. Yy to the targeted emails, tv ads, gushing cards etc. it just smacks of hypocrisy to me too bu I've found and sent a basic card and am now trying to muster up some courage and self restraint to make the required phone call without lashing out at her. I don't have children yet but when I do I vow never to treat them as she treated us. Horrible woman.

I made the decision not to send one this year. I'd have felt like a fraud.

She's decided to cut my eldest sister out of her life. Because she didn't like my mother's carpets.

She's only recently started talking to my middle sister after disowning her for 2 years. After throwing her out, in the middle of the night, she had to make her way back to England from a foreign country. She only went there to look after my poorly father. But now, according to my mother, "they're close now".

I found one that just says happy Mother's Day , and same inside. I can't bear reading all the cards saying how your one in a million mum etc, makes me feel sick. She's lucky to get a card.

In fact the perfect one would say,

happy selfish bitch day !

Sorry you have to conform to normal people's standards of how to behave in order to keep in contact with your family. I can tell just how hard it is for you as after a day of contact you are unbearable. Maybe in your next life you could not be a complete bullying bitch for 36 years and then you might get the attention you crave, but for now be content I still speak to you and allow you to see my children.

Pwg

Mother's day is few months away here in the U.S. but I have gone through cards like that, thinking "nope this doesn't apply to how I feel". We have a Hallmark card shop and there's like hundreds of cards and none of the cards seem apply. I would spend hours looking for the right card. Made me wonder if our relationship is not the norm since Hallmark is making money from these cards.

Btw, i do love my mom and I know she did her best, but some of the things the cards says is what she didn't do.

I dont send a card or any message of any kind as I havent had contact for 4 years now, my choice for the wellbeing of myself and my children. Mothers day is to celebrate the fact ive been truely blessed with three children. Glass half full kinda gal here these days

blueberry there probably wouldn't be a market for Mothers Day Cards with a heavy black line around them and a message inside: thank you for teaching me how not to mother my own children! :D

(not being sarcastic, I'd have bought one of them too for biol. mother; and a similar father's day card as well. I do rather wish I had the eggs to send one! What do I have to loose I suppose ... ).

I found one this year that said "Mother, you made me, and I'm totally amazing, so well done you!". I sent that, because it felt at least it wasn't saying she was the best mum ever.

I kind of wanted to edit it a bit to add "and despite that, I'm totally awesome..."

Sending and to all of you xx

Dear Mom,

Thanks for putting my abusive, violent brother above me at all times. Thanks for ignoring me when I told you what he was doing to me.

Thanks for your impossible standards and goal changing to ensure that I could never ever get your approval.

You have made me what I am today. Screwed up, self harming borderline alcoholic with depression and anxiety.

However. Because of you doing such a shit job as a Mother, it made me determined to be a good one. My dd is brilliant and she and my lovely DH think I'm brilliant too.

I hope you are at peace now and I'm thankful that you are long gone.

She cried at birth because I had swelling on my brain (temporary) due to difficult birth which made her give birth to an alien. she denied I was her daughter once as her friends daughters were prettier and clever, im dyslexic so wouldnt amount to much. Never granted me with eye contact or minimal fake physical contact. Negativity all my life, constant disapproval, self esteem crushed. Told me she hoped I could never have kids. Made me and her kids homeless. I could sit here all year...

Wow, colouringinqueen, I could have written your post in its entirety. Thanks for this thread. I feel miserable every year around this time.

I once bought a "Mum you're 1 in a million" card in the hopes it was true but it seems this thread has proved it sadly isn't the case...