Regular lurker who is confused here.
I've fancied this man at work for ages. We work in different departments and sometimes work together quite a lot and other times might not see each other for a few weeks.
A few weeks ago, I got the impression that he might feel the same about me too. It started when we had to travel together to a work training and spent several hours talking about our childhoods, likes, dislikes and that kind of thing. Whilst at the training event, several times he stood right up next to me so our arms were touching when we didn't need to be that close. Since then, just small things like he'd touch my arm on our way somewhere, seem very happy to see me, come and stand next to me when he didn't need to, be a bit in the way as we went out of a door together so it seemed like he was trying to get close to me.
At the beginning of last week, we had a meeting which was just the two of us to discuss a project. When I arrived at his office, he'd made me a cup of tea already and sat right next to me in the meeting room with our legs touching and our arms occasionally touching too. We'd exchanged remarks which I thought were slightly flirty, lots of "anything for you", "I always look forward to seeing you", wink faces via email etc. At the end of another meeting last week, he asked if I would like to talk about more personal matters and I chickened out at that point but emailed asking if we could talk after all. We met after work on Friday for "coffee or drinks" (his suggestion), so I went for it and indicated that I thought it was obvious that I was interested in him and was told that it was great that we worked so closely together, but that nothing was going to happen.
Obviously, that's fine but I'm wondering whether I totally mis-read the situation (I've been out of the dating game for over 20 years) or whether he was interested but then maybe had second thoughts. I'd like to know so that I don't make the same mistake again and wondered what others thought.
apologies for the epic post!!! 