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OMG just woken up!! I've failed big time!!

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onanotherday · 14/03/2015 07:00

Very difficult marriage, was together for 20 years and thought it was the real deal.....stupid me. I minimised, ignored all the red flags etc. 3 dcs, there was years of debt, bereavement( my mum)......drinking (his) and finally toxic and abusive. He left for ow. He also had a diagnosed mh,. 2 years later, he is down on his uppers and I've been helping etc....I know...scales have finally fallen...not before time. But lack of any financial support and Ive just been given an eviction order!! Council say I'm intentionally homeless....desperately trying to get more work, but just signed off with depression. My daughter suffer anxiety and with cahms. Wtf have I done. He was so manipulative...and feel for the suicide attempts and patheticness. ...sorry long thanks if you got this far.

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Finola1step · 14/03/2015 07:04

Right, first things first, you must get advice about the Eviction order. Speak to or email Shelter. Focus on one thing at a time.

Sorry you've had such a dreadful time.

Quitelikely · 14/03/2015 07:13

The council day this because they think that:

You could have afforded your mortgage but decided not to pay it, so you spent the money elsewhere. Is that right?

They couldn't say it if you genuinely couldn't afford your mortgage.

Where did the money go?

Where does your ex live, can he help you out?

onanotherday · 14/03/2015 07:34

Thank you for replies. Am in rented accommodation, when I moved in was getting maintenance, more than covered. But that stopped as ex now on incapacity. I've been trying to get more work but struggling to get one that will be more than losing benefits for. Ex now300 miles away. We have no other family.

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