Is it petty to be annoyed by little lies?

[Nekoneko]

Or are little lies a sign that bigger ones will come just as easily?

It's only minor stuff about things that don't even matter. For example, I might ask if he remembered we'd already made plans to do such and such activity and, rather than just say he forgot, I get told a weird explanation that doesn't really make sense instead. It just seems pointless to me!

I've been messed around a lot before so don't want to read too much or too little into something but would lies about small meaningless things bother you? Or is it just part of being human?

No, it's part of being a pillock

is this the best you can do ?

yes, it matters a LOT and will eventually erode all trust

dump already

For me, the convoluted excuse would be a bit of a red flag, especially if it's about something which doesn't 'even matter'.

The nature of telling lies is a complicated subject. We all tell them but you have to ask yourself why you're annoyed by the little lies. Perhaps trust your instincts on this one.

Yes, little lies are a sign that big lies will come easily.
Lying about things that don't even matter suggests something is very wrong. Rather than go into it, simply avoid.

Ah, boo. I did think so but was hoping not. Thank you everyone for the honest replies :) I can do better than a pillock so do better I will!

Well done Nekoneko, a wise choice I think.

IMHO lying is a zero tolerance issue.

That's how little kids react to things ... I didn't do my homework because my dog was sick on my pen and our boiler was broken so I didn't have any water to wash it with and I knocked next door to wash it there but aliens had kidnapped them all and ...

Not normal adults.

I was wondering whether your pillock works for me... Sounds v familiar...

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If I'm asked out by a friend and don't want to go (she's invited people I don't know), I might say I'm too tired because it's a non issue and I don't want to create fuss, although I might mention something at the right time at a later date.
I never tell big lies despite telling small ones. I'm very truthful apart from that.

The great thing is that you can see that he's lying. He's obviously a crap lier

That's being tactful, though, Ooooooooh. When the unvarnished truth will cause hurt or offence unnecessarily it can be the decent thing to gloss over a bit. Like when your friend has a radical new hairstyle and you can choose to say "that looks great", "that looks... different" or "My God, did you have a fight with a lawnmower?" I'm very much of a Camp B person.

My ex did this. It came to a point where I couldn't believe a word he said as he would lie about everything. He is now in my phone as WalterMitty.

Yup, get rid. It's a really important red flag. Basically, here you have a person whose solution to 'Ooh this is a bit awkward' is - 'Lie to her, it doesn't matter.' Doesn't take much of an imagination to work out where you end up with that if you choose to link to them through life, mortgage, kids etc., with all the ups and downs that entails...

Trust is the most important thing. Without it, you have nothing. So here, no matter what this guy says to you about what you mean to him, you actually have a big fat... nothing.

Dump. Even if you've been together a while.