How do alpha female types end up with everything revolving around them?

[AlessandraLuna]

I know a couple of these types and to be honest I find it quite baffling as to how they manage to get most people running around after them and sucking up to them. This type of person never seems to be a nice, decent, caring person either, and instead is self absorbed, bossy and bitchy.

I have currently started a new job and the office Queen Bee is part time. When she is there, it is as if most colleagues think to themselves that the Queen is there and how can they best serve her, and everyone is running around catering to her every whim and hanging on her every word. When she is not there they all moan about her but when she is at work no one dares to upset her.

There is also an alpha female mum from my DS's school year; she too is not a nice person and people moan about her but she is treated like royalty and no one would ever dare upset her.

How do this type of people get away with it? I have noticed that they only associate with people that basically kiss their arses, and then move onto new arse kissers after a while. I wonder if they just give off vibes that they are more important than everyone else?

Please share your stories and insight about your experiences.

Elfycat - very good point about the need for cronies being a sign of QBness as opposed to Alpha.

LyingWitch - I know a 'mother' (I hate to describe her as one, the vile beast) just like that. It's terribly sad. Have you heard of the Golden Uterus Complex?

The Golden Uterus Complex sounds like it should be a Phillip Pullman book.

Thanks for reassurance re only child syndrome everyone . I do get worried sometimes that dd is doomed but I know that's silly.

CryMe

I very much like that although Queenofthebees was not the type the OP was talking about at all, she still tried to make herself the focus of the thread. Good work!

I hadn't heard of that, AnotherGirl, I'll go and look that up, I didn't realise that this was an actual documented 'thing'.

nauticant, I thought that too actually.

LyingWitch, here's a good link:

shrink4men.com/2011/05/17/does-your-wife-or-ex-wife-have-a-golden-uterus-complex-15-characteristics-of-the-golden-uterus/

This is a miserable, depressing thread. Complaining about certain types of women, blaming only-child status for their bitchiness, and then blaming the mothers if these only child bitches for raising them to be that way.

This is another of those scenarios where I'm quite glad I live in a parallel universe from some MN posters.
I've worked in several different jobs, spent years with dc at several different schools, and am also involved in voluntary work and hobbies and I just don't ever come across people like this.
I'm a strong believer that some people must have some kind of filter screen in the way they perceive people.

No such thing as 'alpha' anything. Males, females, whatever. Some people are confident, some people are just rude, and knobs. Sometimes they're rich as well. Or blonde.

Don't glorify it by making them some sort of superhuman.

Hear, hear lasareena

What a horrible thread.

Sociopaths are everywhere, charming, manipulative and lacking in empathy, Nothing to do with gender, these people are everywhere, many of them managers, hardly surprising you could find yourself working for one, or encounter one in the school playground

My particular alpha-female isn't an only child but she has been spoiled stupid by her parents. She's also a hypocrite, complaining about one especially curt colleague when her own manners are often beyond the pale.