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Happy love stories, how quickly did you 'know' ??

39 replies

echoperfect · 11/03/2015 13:27

I hope this is ok as so many of the posts on here are unhappy and asking for advice. I wondered if any posters would be willing to cheer me up and share their happy love stories. How did you meet? How did you know they were 'the one' ??
:)

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Lydiand · 11/03/2015 13:31

1st date. But I don't believe that there is only one 'the one'

WhatsGoingOnEh · 11/03/2015 13:36

I knew my first husband was The One on the first date. 10 years later, we split up.

With my soon-to-be second husband, I didn't "know" for a few months. But I remember thinking that he really looked like he was my husband... (I don't mean he looks like my first husband! They couldn't be more different. But he looked like MY husband. He looked right.)

Superexcited · 11/03/2015 13:36

I knew about 6 weeks after we met. Our nearest and dearest say they knew before I did.

mattsmith93 · 11/03/2015 15:00

Me and my wife met on a dating site, we messaged each other everyday for a couple of months, the 1st time we met we were both a bit shy and we both weren't sure if either of us was interested but we continued to message each other, we met up again and it was one of the best days of my life, we spent the night together and we've hardly been apart since, i knew from that day that she was the one,we got married this Feb and we have a 5 month old daughter,

Drew64 · 11/03/2015 15:11

We met at work, flirted, eventually dated and then she moved in to my house while I was away for a week.
We have been married for over 16 years now with 2 DC.
We have had our moments, as do most relationships but we put the effort in, worked hard at it.
Right now we find it really hard to be apart and are as in love now as the day we married.

Angiefernackerpan · 11/03/2015 15:22

I met my DH when I was 15 and he was going out with my friend. I immediately knew we'd end up married.

It was a very matter-of-fact feeling, I'm not romantic in the slightest.

We started going out when I was 19, got married 4 years later and we'll have our 10 year anniversary soon.

DH likes to tell people I waited four years for him, he gets all smug.

sadwidow28 · 11/03/2015 15:31

I met my late-DH and knew within 2 dates. He was the love of my life until the day he died 25 years later. (We had lots of challenges - wobbled and came through them)

rumbelina · 11/03/2015 15:56

We met at a party through mutual friends, snogged that night. Met up again a week later and together ever since (nearly 7 years ago). We lived in different cities to start with so it was weekends and the odd weeknight, long phonecalls each night for almost a year.

It was just easy and right, and a couple of weeks in I was poorly and he came over after work 3 nights in a row. I was living on my own and do like my own space - I remember my mum saying tentatively "is it ok?" (that he came over 3 nights in a row) and I said "yes, yes it is" and kind of knew from there.

We love each other dearly. We don't have a 'perfect' relationship, we get on each other's nerves at times, life is busy and tiring and we don't always cope well with being busy and tired. But we are definitely a happy family (married with DS now). I cannot imagine ever being without him, even at his most annoying. He is good and kind and fair, not a Tory (first question I ever asked him) and likes cats (second question) :)

rumbelina · 11/03/2015 15:57

Sorry about your DH, sadwidow.

SensationalGirl · 11/03/2015 16:12

We met on a dating site. I had split up with my cheating bf but was still in the process of moving out. I moved in with my folks and we met up.

He knew on the first date, me about a month later. Two weeks later I was pregnant. My folks cried when we told them, they were not tears of joy. It took our families longer to see what we saw.

I don't know what it was. A feeling of being home perhaps.

treacleturkey · 11/03/2015 17:36

There's really no such thing as 'The One.' It's total bollocks. Several billion people on this planet and you just happen to meet the right 'one?'

nooyearnooname · 11/03/2015 18:05

First date. OLD. I was 36 with a string of failed relationships behind me and getting to the 'it'll never happen for me' stage. He proposed after 8 weeks and we married after 5 months. It's now 5 years later and we're very happy! It's not always been easy, there's been ups and downs and we've been on the rocks a few times but I wouldn't change it for the world. Other people were at the speed of it but we knew we were right for each other from the start. We met each other's parents at our wedding!

How did I know? The usual things, chemistry, spark, getting along like a house on fire etc. But also a case of both wanting the same things at the same time i.e. a serious relationship and commitment. It would never have worked otherwise.

StaircaseAtTheUniversity · 11/03/2015 18:10

I've told this before here but, we met on July 1st. I knew by July 17th. We got together on October 15th. We were married in February 18th the following year. Sometimes, when you know you know.

MrsBungle · 11/03/2015 18:14

I interviewed dh for a job which is how we met. I went home that night and told my flat mate that I had met my future husband! We didn't get together for 2 years but we got engaged after 3 months of being together and married within 10 months. Still going strong 10 years later.

nannynome · 11/03/2015 18:16

First time we dated I was 16, it was emotionally intense but too much for a first relationship so we split up because I was scared of my emotions. Second time round was 15 years later, we knew the first time but didn't understand. This time was the same emotions but at the right time. We moved in within 6 months, I relocated across the country, got married 2 years later and have Ds1 with number 2 on the way. I still grin cheesily when I think about him and we still message daily even though we live together. We are terribly sad (but incredibly happy) baggages!

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 11/03/2015 18:25

About 6 months after meeting. About 30 seconds after the first time we kissed!

Woozlebear · 11/03/2015 18:45

We met at work. I was with someone else at the time. It was all very messy for several years as he didn't want children and I thought I did so I refused to officially commit to a serious relationship but we couldn't stay away from each other. He briefly went off with someone else. Gradually he started thinking maybe kids would be quite nice. We discussed marriage but I said I couldn't consider it as his change of heart seemed to good to be true and feared he would regret it. He even took me to buy a ring but I insisted on it not being an engagement ring.

I eventually accepted he was being serious, but also that I'd said no so many times he wouldn't ask again so I eventually proposed to him. He cried.

I knew within days of meeting him that he was the one for me, it just took a while to actually get there.

We've been married 6 years and now I'm still waiting for the urge to actually have children to kick in!

I'm not sure I believe in there being only one One for each person. I think there are other people I could probably build a happy life with, but I can't begin to imagine how someone else could feel as right. He can be irritating as hell and he's not who I'd ever have imagined ending up with. But he's perfect for me. We met when I was early 20s and I'm now early 30s . I've changed a huge amount but we seem to grow together in the right way. There's been stress and rough patches, but he's still perfect for me.

HairyHandedFucker · 11/03/2015 19:07

The moment I met him. He felt the same way too. We did have a bit of background prior to the first meeting as we were both on a discussion forum so I was aware of his wit and general demeanour (was the same in RL, thank goodness) but I didn't know what he looked like - met up on a weekend organised by people on the discussion forum, and hit it off straight away. Married a year later (wish we had done it sooner but one of us had to relocate half way down the country). Seven years on, one kid and one on the way, blissful.

Whoishillgirl · 11/03/2015 19:10

I don't think in terms of 'the one' but I was absolutely hyper with happiness when I met dh at a party. I just thought he was great, treated me as an equal, was open about how he felt about me, there was no bullshit about hm, he listened to radio 4 too and we just got on. I just really really liked being with him and I still do. I never once questioned whether or not I should keep on being with him. We have had very tough times but I don't doubt that we really will be together till death do us part.

3Caramel · 11/03/2015 19:12

We clocked each other across the bar, got chatting & then realised that each other was the one our mutual friend had been trying to set up on a blind date together! (The mutual friend got a round of applause at our wedding :) )

I knew he was the one from that first night, as he just felt like home, like we'd known each other forever. That's not to say we don't have our share of ups & downs, but have never doubted him for a minute.

Louboutin37 · 11/03/2015 19:16

We met at a dinner party at my brothers house nearly 5 years ago. I was with my ex husband but was plotting a very sensible escape then. My brother and his wife knew but my ex didn't.

For the next 4 years I kept thinking about him on and off and 4 years later we met again. He'd been in 2 very iffy relationships but never contacted me because he assumed I was happily married. I'd been single for 3 years in that time!

Now we're 9 months in and I knew for definite after about 2 weeks. Mutual friends and family knew as soon as they saw us together :)

slightlyglitterstained · 11/03/2015 19:24

For us, it felt like we'd known each other forever - because we had! Definitely not a love at first sight story - we were friends for years before developing an interest in each other. Not sure how it happened, other than us both being single at the same time, and somehow it made sense...

Primadonnagirl · 11/03/2015 19:26

I knew from the minute I saw him...he popped his head round the door during a meeting and I had an immediate feeling of attraction but also of " coming home"..we met properly a fortnight later, got together that night ( to my shame) and have been together ever since.( 16 years married for 7)..had great times and bad times but he's the one..and to think I nearly didn't go to that meeting!

FlourishingMrs · 11/03/2015 20:36

I read some wise words, don't commit to living,marrying or having kids with anyone until you have known them through the seasons (one year)

If they are great, they will still be great next year. I knew a few months in and four years later, could not be more sure.

PeppermintCrayon · 11/03/2015 21:27

We met through friends. I knew on our second date, I think. It just felt right from the start.

And now we are married and he is still as kind and sweet and lovely as he was while trying to impress me at the start.

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