How would you react if friends did this?

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If you bumped into two of your friends having a casual chat and said hello to them, but they both looked at you but didn't speak to or acknowledge you, what would you do? Would you think they were being rude?

I'd assume they were being very weird anyway!! I guess I would ask what was going on?

Where did you bump into them?

Of course they were being rude ...

Well,if I had said hello to two friends and they hadn't responded, I would have said hello again But louder.

what did you do next

Basically this happens to me on a semi-regular basis with two women that I am friends with who have DCs in the same class as my 7 year old DD.

Most days I stand with them at pick up, and they chat happily to me, but occasionally they both seem totally engaged in a chat and ignore me. I find it hurtful as if I am chatting to one of them and the other walks over then they are included immediately in the conversation.

They both seem lovely in other ways, and I meet them regularly for coffee, playdates etc.

I have started walking off and standing elsewhere when they do it, and then collecting DD and walking off home without speaking to either of them.

I'd assume they'd been talking about me.

Would depend on the setting.

X Post. Your walking off response is perfect - they are bloody rude. Try and make new playground-chat friends.

You may be reading too much into the situation and they are just engaged in conversation.

I realise that Linguini, I just find it a bit hurtful that they do this when they normally talk to me. And neither of them would ever dream of doing it to the other one, only to me.

I'd take it that one of them was confiding in the other and neither wanted anyone to interrupt them.

I don't expect them to stop their conversation for me, but they could just say a quick hello.

How very odd! I can't quite picture what you are describing.

Mintyy, hey are both chatting in the usual spot in which we stand each day at collection. I walk up to them, say hello and they both just sort of look at me and don't really acknowledge me, and then carry on with their conversation.

What would I do? I'd get really hurt, think about it waaay too much and probably never speak to them again.

What I should do, is assume they're elitists and keep my friendship friendly but never actually consider them friends ever again. I'd turn the casual acquaintance into something that was convenient for me and not bother going out of my way for them again.

Hi OP
This is very awkward for you since you have to pick up your child every day. Do you have other people you chat to? Unfortunately they are playing the 'Two's company, three's a crowd' game. Think of them as acquaintances since they are not behaving like friends. Say hello and then go and chat to someone else.

Awful.
If someone says hello, you say hello back.
Wouldn't bother with them again.
I don't think they were talking about you though.

Why don't you ask them what they're in cahoots about!

Maybe they're active swingers, or have a bit of a DH swap going on, and didn't think you'd be interested.

Maybe they're having a vicious bitch about someone you all know and a) they're so engrossed with the cut and thrust didn't register it was you, or b) maybe they just want to have a quick private convo!

Whatever it is, make sure you do ask them what they're up to and who's on the shit list, and report back! We want all the hoary gories...