Police dont care. What?!

[Elizabethkay2094]

So iv finally reported getting groomed At 14 by a 22 year old
I have a child with him
They sad iv concented ( ofc I did I didn't realise it was wrong! ) so not much they can do as age to concent is 13 even with a 22 year old... Sorry am I in England? last time I checked it was 16? Iv totally got it wrong now look crazy??? Help, rant, what is going on with this, I'm sorry but BULLSHIT to justify it! how can he get away with this!

Sadly this doesn't surprise me. Even in the aftermath of all the grooming gangs it would appear they're only interested if the child was under 13. I suggest you call rape crisis - they can offer support and maybe help you approach the police again. How old were you when you got pregnant? Does your child have contact with this man?

Does anyone know if you can ask for a written summary of such a meeting?

wow their response sounds very strange and totally wrong to me, did they handle it properly as in you doing an extensive report on what happened? I'd also strongly advise talking to VictimSupport and the NSPCC as well, these were who i was directed to not long ago when i remembered the full extent of a historic sexual abuse, they advised me and sent the details to the police initially so it was taken seriously.

I would certainly make a complaint about this.

Not all police forces take this view and when they do, they are incorrect.

How did you report it?

I am so sorry OP. :( You were really brave to go to them, please don't forget that.

I was groomed and raped by a 23 year old man when I was 15. Your experience is my biggest fear and the reason I have never went to the police.

I walked into the police station asked to report him, lady didn't care told her why she said so what you want us to do arrest him? I said yes!
Went tonight to do a statement
the man wasn't helpful said he will ask his colleagues advice on it
As I concented at 14 it was fine! Even if he's 22
I had her at 19 but when I was pregnant realised it was wrong and ended it after I realised it wasn't hormones
Really I'm going to be made out as a mad evil ex I know it!

I was raped at 16 not by him
I know why wouldn't do anything so Iv never reported it!
I have evidence that I was groomed. brain washed ect that's why I went they don't care!

You were very brave to make the report. I'm so sorry that you got such a demoralising response. There are incompetent, stupid, and insensitive people in every profession, and it's shit when those are the people we meet when we turn to professionals for help, while feeling vulnerable.

Does your local police force have a victim liaison officer you could speak to?

You deserve support, so don't give up. I hope you will get heard and receive the follow-up you need.

Spelling is terrible sorry I'm just so angry
He's trying to get access to my daughter he saw her once a week supervised by me until recently. We had a massive argument and I refuse to see him again
He's never had her once! He isn't safe it capable this can't be happening!

He said hel ring me at weekend to see what can be done if anything?
I will definatly take it thurther if they don't!!

I'm really sorry you had this experience. I would get some support from Rape Crisis.

I think the piece of law they're referring to is not the age of consent at 16, but the fact that the law deems minors age 13-15 capable of consenting to sex, so that sex with an under 16 year old isn't automatically rape as it is with a child 12 or under. Children under 12 are deemed incapable of consent, so any intercourse is rape.

Minors under 16 are held to be capable of consent, so intercourse with an under 16 year old is not automatically rape but comes under the crime of 'sexual activity with a child'.

But this is all irrelevant because he groomed you, your consent was coerced, and even if you had consented he is still guilty of sexual activity with a child.

What they're really saying OP, is that they can't be arsed.

At least I know I'm not crazy for thinking its wrong. I wasn't trying to tell them he raped me I know he didn't like that but he made me think I had too you know what I mean!
Seriously they are all twats haha

So you've gone to the police now, in response to a request from him for child contact?

I suggest you get a solicitor and advise him to contact them about access. You don't have to speak to him. When you were underage did anyone else know you were being sexually exploited - someone who could corroborate your history?

Yeah afew people knew friends and my sister mainly
I went to make sure he doesn't do it to anybody else
He's sorting a contact centre out then court for access :/

He's always said he's take me court
I haven't gone as a fuvk you sign of that's what you mean

I don't think you should give up but I think you need some professional advice on how to approach this. Please call Rape Crisis and tell them the story. Get their guidance on how to report it in a way that gets you taken seriously. You're also going to need a solicitor who has experience in this area to help you with the access problem. Finally, you might benefit from counselling.

In the meantime I suggest you don't contact him and don't respond to communication.

How's it going, OP?