My new BF is really lovely but very hesitant sexually. His idea of making the first move is to stroke my arm. Me being me the first time i didnt twig, let him do it for an hour then said why arent you kissing me? Previous partners were very experienced and confident that way,but not very nice people which is why they are ex.
When we are in bed he never speaks & i feel like he isnt really letting go/going with it. Then the other day he said while we were watching TV, that 'you dont like me touching your stomach do you?'. Well no, i have 10pounds there that just wont shift despite the other stone lost and i was a bit fed up he said it tbh. My ex's might have been womanising bastards but they had the brains to know which bits got best reactions when in bed and didnt push it on that one place/thing that doesnt.. Am i being unfair?
The thing is i dated someone very sexually shy before and when it got to the point of saying what i liked etc (after a good few months he was still very fumbling/awkward) i was called oversexed (I wish) & that was the end of that. This time we had a bit of sexting first so i thought things would be different/ok ...as we were both open about likes/dslikes etx.