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poisonous ex friend.

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Natz84 · 10/03/2015 17:32

Hi all, new to mums net so please forgive any mistakes, would really appreciate some thoughts on this matter.
Right where do I begin?
Know this person for quite a few years, everything was okay until I met my now dh, then the shit storm started. She did everything in her power to try and break us up, shit stirred between people about us and our relationship. Then I fell pregnant with ds1, and still the manipulative cow carried on trying to slowly poison our relationship. ( told me my dh was a psychopath????) he's not, he's a soft as a seaside donkey. When I has ds1 after a pretty traumatic pregnancy and birth then told me how my in laws would take ds1 off me. This comment from her really pushed me over the edge, I wouldn't let anyone near my son or let him out of my sight ( even took him to the loo with me as I was that frightened).The final straw was when I saw her for what she really is, after months of shit stirring and arguments between dh and I we compared notes as to what she had been telling us both separately... eureka !! The penny finally dropped... she'd been playing us off against each other. Dh and I had a real long talk and ended up moving house. This was 2 years ago, things are all fine with us now, then guess what ? Bumped into said person, she was all sunshine and rainbows (bearing in mind we parted terms on an argument). I was like Angry when I saw her, she made a comment which was something like " I'm going then" as I just glared at her. WTAF ? Was she expecting me to be all nice ? I just don't know where she gets off on this ???
Thanks for reading, sorry if it's a bit up and down Blush

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MairzyDoats · 10/03/2015 17:37

Well, she's not in your life and she's unlikely to come back, given that she knows how you feel and your eyes have been opened to her true colours. Yes, she sounds like a jealous and vindictive bitch, what more is there to say? Do you still feel you need closure?

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Natz84 · 10/03/2015 17:41

Thanks maizyDoats, wouldn't call it closure I need, I would love to have sat there and told her all the good stuff that's happened without her or her poisonous antics. But would that make me as bad as her ?

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FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 10/03/2015 17:42

Natz, you don't need to justify yourself and your life to her :)

Just be happy. If you see her again, smile sweetly and walk away. It'll drive her insane trying to work out why you're so content.

fuzzyduck1 · 10/03/2015 17:43

"he's a soft as a seaside donkey."

does he know that you refer to him like that?

Love it never heard that one before.

Well you saw her and she went away simple as long as she doesn't interfere in you life any more everyone's happy.

If she does there's bound to be some building site around you that she could have a "Accident" at and maybe get buried in cement footings.

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Natz84 · 10/03/2015 17:50

Yes fuzzyduck 1 he does know I call him that Grin. I like your thinking about the building site.

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Natz84 · 10/03/2015 17:52

Now I know why her ex used to call her a snake !

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BasinHaircut · 10/03/2015 17:56

From experience, you don't want to tell her anything about your life. It probably drives her insane that she doesn't know what you are doing anymore so don't give her the satisfaction.

Plus if you tell her stuff, you kind of let her back in, and that will probably end badly. Trust me.

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Natz84 · 10/03/2015 18:00

Your probably right basin haircut. I would never want to let her back in... ever. I just can't get over the cheek of it.

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Meerka · 10/03/2015 18:41

Nasty stuff, but the one good side is of it that you'll recognise the signs ... people as nasty as this are rare but when you do experience one, you learn what to look for.

Also you learn to take what people say with a pinch of salt unless you are rocksolid certain of them.

Glad she didn't manage to split you and your lovely donkey up and good luck to the mini-Natzes

Cleo22 · 10/03/2015 18:45

Time to check your privacy settings on Facebook etc. You don't want her knowing anything about you

didyouwritethe · 10/03/2015 18:45

Pondering here whether seeing dh as a seaside donkey might make my heart grow fonder. What a lovely metaphor, OP.

She sounds awful, well done for surviving her attacks.

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Natz84 · 11/03/2015 06:16

Don't worry about Facebook, I blocked her first and closed the original profile down. (Facebook the root of all evil ) I now only have a profile for my ds1 as he has a rare medical condition and there's a support group for it. I also deleted her phone number, this was so I couldn't ring her and have a go. I changed my phone number as well. We moved house again so i don't think she knows where I live.

Justremembered another thing she said, when I had ds1 she said to me " all your bothered about now is ds1 and the seaside donkey" ??? Well yes I was a first time mum and I needed the seaside donkey for support coz I didn't have a clue what I was doing. Hmm

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