If you planned your seperation?

[magicgirl79]

Some of you will be aware of my others posts regarding possibly separating from H.

Through his drug use and never knowing what the mood will be or if there will be silence, I feel it has sucked the young life out of me and I have too many years left I need to enjoy.

I just need to get a back bone and make a move towards happiness.

How may of you actually planned the separation and for how long before you took action?

it took me years, honestly. I saw from being pregnant with DD1 he was getting worse and worse and after she was born it kept getting worse. Then I finally left, or told him to leave, last month.

I planned separation from exH

he treated me like a slave, so bit by bit, I packed his stuff into boxes/suitcases, I shaved small amounts from our bank account and gave it a very trusted friend to look after for me. I sounded out places for him to go and live after I'd got rid of abusive and stinking arse.

Wife-work had it's benefits in this case, this whole process took around 3/4 months. It would have been sooner, but we had family gathering happening in the middle of it all, and I didn't want to spoil that. I needed my plan to work.

sorry you're going through the bad bits, but my life took an instantly positive turn after ridding our family of the nasty bastard.

Thank you, its just the moods, for example he can come home and not speak or maybe just mutter, huff and sigh for what I can see no reason.

DD has been commenting a lot about "dad is in a mood" etc. The he will smoke a joint and it is yap yap yap non stop and we are expected to be perfectly normal!!

I just know there is more to life than waiting about, I just don't know how to do it.