How did your teenagers react to to divorce?

[1Cheesedoff]

Started divorce... going to tell my teenagers today...split..sell house ....maybe rent.. I was just interested to hear:

1 How you told them.

2 How they reacted.

They know things are not right so wont come as massive shock. I feel quite sick.

I told my 14 yo DD immediately after I told STBXH. I was in a right state & couldn't hide it. She cried but totally understood why. I think she cried out of surprise that I had finally done it.

Since then she has been fabulous and has even talked me round when I have had a wobble.

She did not have a great relationship with her Dad, he is very controlling & is a bully & she was usually on the end of it. It was a major part of why I finally told him it was over.

If your DC know things aren't right then they may be upset but in the long run it will be best for all of you & they will get that.

Be honest with them & keep them informed of what is happening.

Good luck telling them today.

I told my ex on the Sunday and moved out of our bedroom, he'd told is DS's before I even got home from work the following day.... Grrr.... to try to cause trouble I reckon. Anyway they've been really fine, they'd lived with us so knew how unhealthy the relationship was. That was in September, I found a house nearby to rent and moved out in November.

The Christmas card I got from ds1 made me cry as he told me how proud he was of me for being brave enough to make the "right" decision. For me that says it all

That is lovely yougotafriend, bless his heart for such a lovely message. That would have made me cry.

We told our then 16 yr old son as soon as we decided it was finally over, we gave him the choice who he wanted to stay with he chose me his dad. Since then he has said it was the best thing that could have happened and he is much happier....and so am I

I done it today and it was much easier than I thought. thanx