Ok, apologies in advance if this is long. My relationship with my mum has always been strained. She is an alcoholic and drank a lot when my db and I were growing up. My dad worked nights so as soon as he left for work she would disappear to the pub leaving db and I alone in the house from a very young age. I left home early, married young and had 2 dcs. My marriage was a joke. Exh was verbally, physically and emotionally abusive.
I left him a couple of years ago after he hit me so hard he left bruises on my stomach.
Soon after I began a new relationship with a guy I knew years ago. Since then exh has continued to make my life hell. He has made false allegations to social services about me and my dp, told them dp is a paedophile and I have mental health issues. Ss investigated and found all allegations to be untrue. My family know how difficult things have been for us.
Last year exh started to call to my parents house occasionally when he had dcs for access at the weekends. My parents invite him in for tea and all play happy families. I feel incredibly betrayed by this. He beat me, got another woman pregnant while we were together, has tried to have my kids taken off me, is constantly dragging me to court looking for money I don't have, is spreading disgusting lies about me all over the town and yet they feel its acceptable to ignore all this and have him round for tea. They're very much "keeping up appearances" kinds of people and will do anything to avoid conflict. They are embarrassed by the fact I'm separated and I think would rather I had stayed in an abusive relationship.
Added to all this my dp admitted to me last year that years ago he slept with my mother... she cheated on my dad with him and several other guys. She is furious with him for telling me and says there was no need for me to know. I was pregnant at the time and it was a massive shock. She treated me like dirt after I found out, ignored me for weeks on end, sulked when I confronted her about it etc.
Anyway I spoke to my parents last year and told them I'd prefer them to discontinue the relationship they had with exh, that I thought it was disloyal after all the trouble he caused. They have ignored that and had him round again this week. At this stage I just don't want anything to do with them. Am I over reacting?