Car issue

[Mini05]

so my car was in garage weds and had yoga class DP has 2 cars himself so I said I'd use the black one ( which is 51 plate) to be replied "no I'll take you" don't you trust me "I'll take you"
So car is still not ready fri and had disagreement with garage as its not right!
Bit of an arguement as he say he as two cars to look after and more or less I should look after mine as he doesn't ask me what to do/where to take etc!
I said why when things are not right/problem does he shut down/no contact
Is leaving me to sort it out now something's not right!(when I havnt a clue what I'm talking about!
I also said his selfish in the fact he wouldn't lend me hus other car on weds
Since then he hasn't spoke
I go Pilates same time as he goes out every Friday, he's knows I go as he has to move his car to get mine out, (I wasn't going to ask again to lend the car to be told no) so he get dressed and goes out!!
I'm fuming and feel let down my him

I'm i being unreasonable in my thinking?
If it was you how would you react?

How many points have you got on your license? Have you paid to put yourself on his insurance? Are you a careful driver? Have you had many accidents? Why was your car in the garage?

You sound a bit presumptuous TBH. "I said I'd use the black one..." So you just decided to help yourself to his car without asking him if you could borrow it?

If my bf had his car out of commission and I had two cars and refused to lend him one then my only conclusion would be that I was a total selfish bitch. Unless he had a history of driving drunk or having many many accidents, then I would help him get a rental.

Why are so many partners so unwilling to help? Why be with someone if you don't want to help them? Are you just a vagina to him or is he a misogynist?

Pocket
I have NO points on my license for over 40 years!
We are both on each insurance for all 3 cars
I had 1 small accident in that time
My car was in the car because it got a starting problem!

I didn't help myself to the car! He wouldn't let me!
Perhaps my wording was wrong I asked could I borrow the black one.

What's with my history

Sensation
He doesn't misTrust or Mistreat me, just where his things sure concerned its a big thing.
Where as me its not an issue

Why have you got "his and hers" cars?

So he doesn't like to share? I don't like that kind of thing, not a dumpable offense but still hurtful.

My boyfriend's work van got a puncture. I have a van and a car. Immediately I said "take my van if you like?".
Surely that's how any relationship should work, bad driving notwithstanding.

Why have you got "his and hers" cars?

You're joking aren't you? I have a gorgeous car that I take the kids out and about in. It's the main family car. My dh has his car/van thing that he goes to work in and fills up with his fishing and shooting crap. Half the time it hasn't got the back seats in to make room for his stuff. We're not swapping!

Unless one of us was stuck and then the stock answer would be yes, of course you can take my car. Wouldn't cross my mind to say no and be an awkward arse. Mini05 is he always like this?

Sounds very selfish of him.

A couple of months after I met DP, his car died and as I could walk to work I put him on my insurance and let him borrow mine. 3 years later he's still using it most days during the week. I hardly knew him really, just knew this would help him out.

Is he like this with his other possessions?

I'm not sure how I'd feel about someone who valued his possessions more than me.

I'm really stumped as to why he won't let you borrow one. What's the point of being on the insurance then?
It's not like he can drive them both at the same time.
Why didn't you ask him the reasons for not lending you a car?
How very odd.

This isn't a car issue, the guy's a selfish dick.

How long have you been together?

Is there anything nice about him.

What does he bring to the relationship?

I would be wondering why I was sharing my life with a such a person.

You sound a bit presumptuous TBH. "I said I'd use the black one..." So you just decided to help yourself to his car without asking him if you could borrow it?

He's her partner and he has 2 cars, OPs car is in the garage and needed to use a car, unless they've only been together a few weeks and she's not insured then i cant see how its unreasonable to assume she could use one of her partners cars

When my car died my DP started push biking to work so i could use his if i needed to go anywhere. Surely this is how relationships work? You help each other out?

Your partner sounds very selfish

His answer to not lending me the car was " I'm not leaving the other car in the street near pub"
It's his bloody pride and joy sports car!!

As to his and her cars, I've always had my own car since I was 18. I like the fact if I want to go anywhere I just go and not have to wait if he's out in it! Nothing wrong having your own car.

He's very protective of his things! Anything don't know why proberly always been like this. Where as me I'd give you the shirt on my back!
Different personalities?
Just finding it hard to get my head round the sharing thing!

Sorry about my first post - I thought from my first read that you didn't live together (because you said you hadn't spoken since Weds.) If you do then that puts a bit of a different spin on things.

He's very protective of his things! Anything don't know why proberly always been like this.

I think that's probably the crux of it then. He may have been brought up this way or maybe he never had anything nice as a kid? Or maybe he once lent his stuff to someone and it got wrecked.

If he is generous in other ways e.g. will help you out with lifts, does his share of household chores, buys nice presents for birthday/xmas etc, then you might just have to make a mental note that he's not good about sharing his "toys".

However if he's a prat in other ways as well (has he really not spoken to you since Weds?!) then maybe it's time to take a good hard look at what you're getting out of the relationship?