Why would he call a mortgage advisor on a Sunday?

[BigEyedOwl]

Just seen on OH's mobile that he called someone on Sunday who is down as 'mortgage advisor'. Going further into the contact this person is known as Liz.

He's not mentioned it to me. Why would he be talking to a mortgage advisor on a Sunday and why wouldn't he mention it to me? (I was at work all day Sunday).

I'm paranoid because the house is in his name although I still pay towards mortgage, bills and improvements. Currently paying for a new ensuite decor. He promises me that as soon as mortgage is up for renewal in October we'll be changing it to joint names and we can't do that yet as the finances don't get better until then (true). But naturally I'm still paranoid that I'm being taken for a ride!

Yes ex DH had his OW hidden under another name. Some plumbing company.

Hope you get to the bottom of it

Mortgage advisors do work from mobile numbers and, as a lot are self employed, often happy to offer a 24/7 call back if it secures a new appointment. Mine does, at any rate.

Your mistrust is coming from somewhere, however. Could be his general behaviour or it could be your own insecurity. Suggest the finance/property/marriage aspect is too up in the air to make you feel secure and that, if he's making appointments, you should be involved. If he's lying about who this person is, a quick call should settle it.

Did you happen to get a chance to check the call duration OP? That'll give you some answers right away.

Put the mobile number into the facebook search bar.
My ex also had his ow in his phone, under "Tim"

Check his texts?

So there is a Liz the mortgage advisor he's worked with in the past?

Maybe he's fucking Liz the mortgage advisor he worked with in the past?

Are you sure you're not seeing an attacker in the bush when it's really a cat? If you're certain something is up go with your gut.

Yes I found out that I had been changed to my company name rather than ouch. I was his partner ffs! That was when he was seeing OW. Twunt.

Oh and ditto stop paying for stuff. You will get bugger all if you split. Pay your share of the running costs but nothing else.
If any other unmarried woman or man reading this is paying to a mortgage not in your name or name not on deeds wake up!! You stand to get shafted if it goes tits up!

Call the number and see who picks up, if it's the mortgage advisors official number she will answer with her name/company won't she? If not you can ask who and explain why!!! I'd stop paying into the house get your money back from him in someway, even from a joint account or asking him to borrow cash for something, incase it turns out this isn't who he says she is and everything goes wrong.

Has he been away recently to this city an hour away without you? Could he have met a mortgage advisor called Liz in a bar?

Are you on the deeds of the house? I'm less suspicious of an affair and more of him lying about adding your name as ownership of the house.

I guess I'm trying to say that he might be obtaining early advice to subvert you.

Are you married to him?

The old hide your lovers name behind a false one is fairly common with people having affairs.

This + the oh shit lying face.

It's far more likely to be an affair than a mortgage advisor. There is nothing mortgage advisor-y that can't wait til Monday. Banks and solicitors are closed on Sunday.

The mortgage stuff is a total red herring.

Any news OP? I hope you managed to sort it. I agree that you should stop paying towards the house until you are on the mortgage.