Birthday dilemma, please help

[Homely1]

I have separated from my DH. He sees DC some weekends but otherwise does not ask after DC/ call etc and provides little financial support. His behaviour has been awful. His bday is looming- do I send him a card from DC?

I wouldn't.

I would!

Depends how old DC are I'd say.

If it is something they are old enough to be involved in really (eg. sign their name or draw some squiggles) then I would.

If you are talking about a babies/toddlers then I wouldn't bother.

I would take into account that the children and your husband will have a relationship forever so if they have previously sent him a card, you want to keep it going as a tradition.

Only if your DCs are old enough to notice or care. If they are then yes, you should do the right thing for them (while gritting your teeth).

Yes, with LOTS of glitter on it

Only if he deserve one . Is he a good a father? I would help my child to make a homemade card.

www.wired.co.uk/news/archive/2015-01/13/glitter

Glitter bomb ;)

Yes. This isn't about what you think of him. It's about supporting their relationship with their dad. (And I say that as someone who's been in an almost identical position.)

I wouldn't. But that's just me. I do however, encourage the kids to make a card for their father. Going by your post, I'm assuming your DC are too young for this?

Thank you all. DC is 2. It's just that he's been uninvolved except when he acts all doting at the weekend.

Don't stoop to his level. Send the card.