Thanks ladies

[Witchofthenorth]

Hi,

A wee while ago, I started a thread about my family and a long distance relationship, which I subsequently asked MNHQ to delete as I thought I had been outed.

I received a fair amount of flaming on that thread and if the truth be known, felt very battered and bruised by the whole thing but took every ones comments on board.

Anyway, I just wanted to return and thank you all, for all the comments I liked and all the ones I didn't. Your straight to the point words resonated and allowed me to take a little step back from the situation and see things clearer, which I am very glad I did!! My amazing wonderful man appears to actually be a very controlling, damaged and jealous individual, whom, if you guys hadn't given me a bit of a reality check, I wouldn't have been able to see him for what he was.

In short, you removed the rose tinted lenses from me and allowed me to see.

Thank you ladies, your an amazing bunch

Well done you for taking that step back. It is so very hard to do. The op is always the one who has to do all the hard work

I'm really glad you saw through him :)

Have you ended the relationship ?

Absolutely...it's done.

The thing is, I didn't notice/recognise any controlling behaviour when I started the thread, that wasn't my worry, but being told things quite bluntly by everyone allowed me to become unblinkered (is that even a word??) if that makes sense?

Anyway, I am grateful

Glad to hear it

What a great post, Witch I'm obviously not thrilled your man turned out to be an arse, but am DELIGHTED you had the moral courage to take that clearer view & get the hell out. It's really good of you to update - not many people like being told what they don't want to hear, but it can save a life :)

Good result.... . It's good to see you are out of a bad place now.

It can...and the scary thing is, the advice I was looking for wasn't to tell me if he was controlling, but to ask what to do about my family not being happy about having an LDR. The very thought that he was being subtly controlling didn't even occur to me at that time, it was only afterward when I was able to see the bigger picture.

It makes you wonder, had I not been able to, where I may have ended up. I would like to think that I would have seen and got out, but in retrospect, he was doing a number on me right from the get go!

Well done, and good luck for the future !