Met boyfriend 6 months ago on POF.
Everything lovely and quite plain sailing. We sort of both said to each other a few weeks in that we weren't dating other people.
He calls me his girlfriend.
I deleted my POF profile about 12 weeks in. Hadn't logged in for ages. I didn't tell him but checked the status of his and he seemed to have hidden it, I could only find it by username search, which was fine by me, I felt confident enough about us. He certainly hasn't had time to date anyone else and he's open with his phone etc.
He had a new phone and I knew he hadn't reinstalled any dating apps.
Two days ago, my friend messaged me to tell me that he had come up on POF in her search as "online today".
I asked him about it and he said he hadn't deleted his account and he often still gets emails from POF, you know like the weekly matches and events in the area. He said he usually just ignores them but he was messing about on his phone and clicked on the link. Phone remembers his passwords and logged him in. Said He was just messing around lazily.
He apologised profusely. Said if it had been the other way around, he'd be upset. Said he felt guilty like he'd been "caught out" but assured me he's happy and he would happily delete it.
I am/was happy to believe him that he's not looking around. Like I said, I've felt like we are good. But one thing is niggling me....
If he had hidden his profile a few months ago, surely he has logged in and unhidden it at some point in order for my friend to see him? That's more than just a clicking on a link and lazily messing around with his phone?
Am I being naive? Does it matter?