second date flakeness

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ok here it goes ,i was added by a girl on facebook ,we chatted she asked me out ,the date went well ,we have been talking since, she messages me i reply ,ive asked her on a second date a few times ,she either blames work horses that she has all valid she also said she wants to talk it slow ,ok we have been on 1 date i like her ,why is she slow for meeting up again ? i need a second date to see if i like her ? dont rele want to wast time as i have others on the radar

She's not interested and she's trying to let you down gently. Sorry.
Set up some dates with the others that you're interested in.

Err i don't think she wants a second date and is being polite. She should be direct. If she was keen she would make time I promise you.
stop asking!

yeah i thought the same tbh so i stopped messaging her but she messages me ?

How old are you?

im 24 she 23

Right, so when she says no when you ask her out, because she's "busy", does she say something like : "I'm busy on Sunday afternoon mucking out the horses, but I'm free on...." ie giving you an alternative time when she's available?
If she doesn't, believe me, she's not interested in going on another date and she's just enjoying the attention she gets when she messages you.

Go on dates with women who say yes - such as those others that you have on your radar.

If this one's not keen to see you again, then she's not keen to see you again.

The messages don't mean much, they're just keeping you on hold without anything real materialising. Focus on what IS real. Such as real dates with women who say yes to your offers of a date: go make such an offer to another woman.

yeah no alternative ,thanks for your advice :) just confirmed my thoughts

thanks for confirming what i thought in that case i will go on the date i have provisional booked lol x

"provisionally" booked?

Now, don't you go treating people as shoddily as this woman has just treated you!

Either you're interested in spending time with someone, or you're not. Don't treat people like disposable options. You didn't like it when this woman did it to you, did you?

update,she has messaged me and meeting Saturday ,she has said sorry for being distant and will improve :))

So what happens to the 'provisional date'
This is not cool, dude