Has anyone had a partner with drink issue?

[DetentionGrrrl]

I need some advice about what constitutes a drink problem. I think my partner may have one, although i wouldn't go as far to say he's an alcoholic. He drinks every day...i can't recall the last time he didn't drink at home in the evening. He doesn't become unpleasant or aggressive, his personality doesn't change. Drink hasn't affected his work, or got him in trouble.

But, when i've suggested a booze free evening, he shrugs it off. I asked him this morning if he fancied a booze-free night in front of the telly, and he said 'we'll see' but didn't look pleased. I'm really worried for his health, and he's started to put on some weight he'd lost too. Does anyone have any personal experience of something like this?

I'm not happy with the amount my dh drinks tbh. He doesn;t drink everyday BUT can easily have a bottle of wine and a few beers of a night when he wants to...also if he's out with the lads he can get through a hell of a lot and at times I have witness him drink 2:1 ratio on drinks compared to friends.
Sadly he's also likely to come home at all hours of the morning (5am onwards) because he's wanted to carry on drinking..

He's never been violent towards me BUT I have witnessed a few occasions (in 10 years together) hat he has become aggressive etc mainly while out with the friends and me.

I dunno, maybe its because Im not a big drinker and hate the feeling the next day and also the fact I'm pregnant makes me more aware of his drinking..I have discussed it with dh BUT he just laughs it off.

You have my sympathy..Have you tried to sit down and chat about your concerns..?
BTW my concerns for my dh are also for his health..I worry what state his liver gets into as well as the fact in the states he gets into anyone can do anything and he'd be like a deck on dominoes. .

Hopefully soemone can give you advice. xx

I have tried, but all i get is 'i don't drink as much as you think' (i know how much he drinks- i sort the recycling!) and 'i drink less than i used to' (which he does, but is irrelevant) He doesn't take my concerns seriously. I worry so much about him Don't want to nag though, because he's bought patches to quit smoking, and i don't want to push him to keep smoking too.