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missmcsquishy · 02/03/2015 17:19

Im currently nearly 6 months pregnant and started seeing a guy at the start of january. We met through online dating and after chatting for a while we met up and it was wonderful. He is a really great guy and doesnt see me pregnant as a problem, he is willing to support me and wee one when their here. He lives about 40mins away and we speak to each other through whatsapp daily since his phone is cut off. At the start he said he didnt want to go a day without speaking to me which i thought was sweet. Fast forward to now i was in hospital last sunday to get baby checked over and he had a sickness bug. I spoke to him on the morning of the sunday and he was going to bed then got a message about half 8 saying his wifi had been off all day and he didnt know why, we spoke for a bit then i went to bed. Woke up to 2 messaged on monday and one was he hoped his message sends after another couple of messages i dont hear back and havent heard back from him all week now. There hasnt been any inclination on my part things were bad yes weve had some wee squabbles but nothing that we didnt fix. My friends think hes not talking anymore as he doesnt want to see me but last time he stayed he gave me a pair of his trackies and had left clothes which he said he would pick up next time.
What do i do? I really like him but i know i cant wait forever for him to get in touch. Apologies for the long post btw

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Joysmum · 02/03/2015 17:28

How can somebody you only met 2 months ago be willing to support you and your unborn child Confused

GinSoakedBitchyPony · 02/03/2015 17:40

If you haven't heard back from him for a week, I think he's gone.
As already pointed out, any man who offers to support you and another man's unborn baby after he's only known you for 2 months is strange.

GinSoakedBitchyPony · 02/03/2015 17:41

Wee squabbles? After 2 months?
How old are you both?

SonnyJimBob · 02/03/2015 17:41

It's either too much too soon, or his phone is still cut off, his WiFi is still down, and he has no way of contacting you.

I would lean towards him taking the cowards way out of the relationship. It is very early days, and not many men would be ready to take on a woman and an unborn child that wasn't theirs. Time will tell you all you need to know with this one.

TheJiminyConjecture · 02/03/2015 17:46

How can somebody you only met 2 months ago be willing to support you and your unborn child

Especially when he can't afford to keep his phone connected Confused

Support aside, you say you've had a few squabbles. You've known him 2 months. Surely you shouldn't be having any issues so early on.

Perhaps the reality of the situation has hit him and he's realised it's not for him? I also wouldn't hold much stock in the fact he has left clothes at yours, I know plenty of people who have written off things rather than see someone again.

Vivacia · 02/03/2015 18:55

2 months?!

ElsaLitcha · 02/03/2015 19:00

I'm more boggled at the fact you'd let someone you've known only two months talk about supporting you and your child! He could be anyone and you'd be giving him access to a newborn baby.

packetofcrisps · 02/03/2015 19:02

You need to concentrate on yourself and your baby. It sounds like he wanted to please and impress you in the beginning, saying he will support you and your baby. I'd have been very surprised if he meant it. Sounds like he's chickened out and if he ignores you long enough, you might leave him alone.

pleasingshape · 02/03/2015 19:13

IME 'my phone is cut off' and 'my wifi is down' usually translates as'I have a wife'.

Have you ever been to his house?

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missmcsquishy · 02/03/2015 19:27

He isnt married, he is a year older than me and stays with his dad who isnt in good health. Ive been once to his house.

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Fairenuff · 02/03/2015 19:34

He was way too intense right from the start, promising to support you and the baby and saying that he didn't want a day to go by without speaking to you.

These are red flags.

These tell you that you need to move on find someone more rational, honest and trustworthy. If he hasn't ended it already I think you should. The sooner the better.

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missmcsquishy · 02/03/2015 19:40

It would of just been nice if he had at least let me know instead of taking the cowards way out and saying nothing Sad

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IsabeauMichelle · 02/03/2015 19:40

I think he's disappeared tbh.

I honestly don't know why you would think was a stable environment for your baby though. Someone who promises something like that after a matter of WEEKS is not right.

Please look after yourself and your baby.

paxtecum · 02/03/2015 19:43

Op: I know a woman who was four months pregnant and single, she met a bloke who asked her for a date, she refused and told him she was pregnant, he said something like, 'not a problem, I'll adopt the baby when we get married'.
They are still married 40 years later.

paxtecum · 02/03/2015 19:46

Op, I think your bloke not be so true to his word.

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