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scurulous rumours

8 replies

Kaz2200 · 01/03/2015 20:27

This subject has a big back story, but the upshot is that somebody has said awful things to my husband about me, really awful. It is not true, there is nothing remotely true about it. My oh has said let's just forget about it and move on, the thing is I know he doesn't believe it and he is the sort of person to dwell on things and fetch it up later. I have no way of proving my innocence, what do I do?

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ChipDip · 01/03/2015 20:31

Ask the person who is spreading the lie to prove it.

FenellaFellorick · 01/03/2015 21:09

he doesn't believe it as in he doesn't believe that it's true or he doesn't believe that you're innocent of whatever it is?

Would confronting the person help the situation? why do you think they have told this lie?

Hippee · 01/03/2015 22:19

I'd be worried that your OH is believing them rather than you.

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE · 01/03/2015 22:21

I don't know Hippee, people can easily put doubt in a persons mind. Especially if it could be plausible (not saying it it).

I would also be asking for proof from the bullshitter. Is it provable/falsifiable?

CaptainAnkles · 01/03/2015 22:42

Why has the person told this lie about you?

Isetan · 02/03/2015 07:44

There's not much you can do about this person spreading lies. However, I would make it clear to your OH that you have done nothing wrong and if he chooses to bring it up at a later date, you will not be manipulated into appeasing him.

Isetan · 02/03/2015 07:47

It isn't your job to prove your innocence.

CogitoErgoSometimes · 02/03/2015 10:22

I agree with Isetan and others saying that, assuming you've given him no reason to mistrust you, your husband should have sent the trouble-maker off with a flea in their ear and should be 100% behind you. If he's not on your side then he's a pretty poor excuse of a partner.

Why do I think the shit-stirrer is a family member?

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