Five ways you are accidentally making everyone hate you

[hmc]

Found this article when pondering (during a rare introspective self pitying moment) why I only have a handful of close friends:
here

It's rather long but quite readable.

Having read it must say I'm happy as I am - people are just way too high maintenance / prickly.

Is this really how most people are

Hang on - I don't think page 1 appears in the link here it is

Tbh I didn't recognise myself in any of the scenarios probably because I lead a boring life

I do agree with you that sometimes .i find relationships very hard work and people often get the 'ump and don't even try to give you the benefit of the doubt, they leap into defensive mode.

Yes, tiresome isn't it daisy!

Hmm think I definitely do the unwitting power thing. Thing is, I assume everyone knows I'm being ironic but if I'm honest, why would they? It's so dull being bland all the time, though,
And I agree, far too many people are high maintenance.

I do the "it's not what you say, it's what you didn't say" thing. I can be tardy with responding to emails, texts etc - but genuinely don't mean to snub. People are way too thin skinned

it's me - though I am sure I piss people off in more than 5 ways

See, I reckon I'm the opposite, hmc. I'm naturally shy socially phobic, but I do make the effort to talk to people - my mum is quite an extrovert, so I grew up witnessing how it's done, iyswim. My efforts generally go unrewarded, though; I think people probably sense it doesn't come naturally and they don't want to be seen associating with such a loser.

Stop with the loser talk! (gentle admonishment)

Ah - who knows what it is. Folk are queer and unfathomable.

I guess we just have to appreciate and cherish the friends that we do have - suppose it is quality and not quantity that counts

Wouldn't life be easier if people were straight forward and plain talking.

Tru dat .

Yy I do cherish the few friends I have, as they are very important to me. Main thing is they have known me a long time and we cut each other some slack.

Eg I have a friend who I have known since college, I found her birthday pressie in my desk drawer and oops I had forgotten to send it. I stuck it in an envelope and sent a text to say I'm a numpty sooooorreeeee. Got a lovely text 2 days later to say how much she appreciated me thinking of her 4 months late she is such a pal, luv her to bits. Another person would have got all PA about it (if truth be known, we're both really relieved not to be reminded of birthdays)

But #4 - getting drunk, having sex with a stranger in your car and shitting all over the upholstery? He says that's common?!

Really? It's all a power thing? Doesn't compute though, clearly people suck up to those in higher power to them in order to be on side?! Or am I missing something?

This article doesn't really resonate with me at all.

I could get the 'it's what you don't say' bit.

But then I lost my will to live at shitting stranger car sex.

Rubbiish- he was joking

Yeah if someone told me the car sex story I'd be thinking they are a dickhead, I wouldn't be jealous.

And if someone always took from me, then never helped in return, my ass I'd be pissed. It's called being selfish.

Why am I seeing these scenarios from the other side?

Is it supposed to be satire?

I took it as written with (sometimes questionable) humour but nevertheless the advice still stands ....