Do you have or have you re-established contact with exes

[HowAboutNot]

Just wondering how many of you stayed in touch with your exes or got back in touch after many months/ years later? And did you discuss the relationship etc?

I'm fully aware that certain circumstances mean that NC is the only way but would be interested to hear from those whose exes reached out or if you reached out to your ex, why? and was the break-up amicable?

I'm in sporadic touch with one of my exes, just to say happy birthday or offer new year greetings etc but with my last ex who was emotionally abusive I decided that I'd never speak to him again but lately think that if he ever did get in touch (again) I'd respond. Interested in hearing others' experiences.

I know a couple of mine again via FB and we chat a bit but at a very basic level. I remember why I'm no longer with them.

I'm very much in touch with an ex. He's probably the person I first think of emailing with a problem but I try not to. I need to create a boundary because it would be all too easy to slip back into a relationship. Essentially the same fundamental reason we split remains...yet otherwise we are perfectly matched.

I'm friends with lots of my exes, mainly in a FB way with the odd conversation thrown in. Most of them are good men, just not the right one for me.

A couple of them are fucking bellends though. Those I have nothing to do with.

I guess different people are different but neither dh or I have any contact with any of our exes and I wouldn't be happy any other way - my ex dh left me for a girlfriend he had before me he'd found on Facebook and upped and left back to her after 6 years of marriage (and dd) after being in touch with her about 6 months I think.

I think Facebook in particular is quite dangerous when it comes to exes - previously if you saw them in the street you'd just normally ignore them and walk past. Now there's Facebook it gives people an easy way to drag up past faces when you wouldn't have before on quite a personal level.

I'm FB friends with quite a few of mine. In some cases we chat fairly often, in other cases it's pretty much birthday greetings and an occasional 'like' or comment if they post something interesting. But most of my XPs are perfectly nice blokes who I regard in the same way as former work colleagues and people I was friends with but had previously lost touch with for various reasons.

This may partly be down to the fact that I am quite old, and a lot of the XPs-who-are-friends are people with whom all the sex and dating happened more than a decade ago so is no big deal.

I contacted an ex because I began working very close to his house. He was really pleased to hear from me and we have become very close but platonic friends o er the last 18 months. However this is the only instance that has worked out this way I really believe you can only be friends with an ex if there is no intention either side of rekindling