The night where you have a lovely evening planned and you end up having a row.

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It really does put a dampner on the evening doesnt it..

Do you want to talk about it?

Has happened to us quite abut recently. It's crap. Hope you are ok OP.

*a bit...

Oh no, Its ok thank you though..

LB didnt settle till 10. Then we moaned at each other about life and now im in bed. Its just annoying I thought there would be wine pizza and sex haha.

Always the way though isnt it when you plan things

At what point did the moaning turn into an argument and is this a regular pattern or a sad one-off?

Just A one off. "He doesnt see his family enough i always see mine". But im just always organised and plan meet ups hes all last min and then cant be bothered. Just blaming me when he knows hes wrong.
Hes said sorry im just rubbish at forgetting straight away.
It probably wasnt even an argument there was no shouting just me getting annoyed .

Sounds like you need more opportunities to communicate and air problems before they turn into rows. Do you get much time together or was the romantic evening a rare chance to sit down and talk?

BTW you are not 'rubbish at forgetting'. The problem of seeing his family more often hasn't been satisfactorily resolved so there's a loose end. That's the follow up conversation..... what will he do differently in order to see his family more often (his responsibility) and how can you assist? Find the solution, tidy up the loose end and the resentment/blame that cause the row will go.

This happens to us now and then. Mainly because we get very little time together away from the DC and house, so that precious when we are supposed to be 'enjoying each other' ends up being the only time we have to air all our grievances. Annoying and a hard habit to break.

What has worked for us is trying to get more time in the week to communicate. Hard but worth it. And avoiding too much booze when we do go out...loose tongues after wine are a bit of a disaster for me especially.

Thank you for your replies.

He is going to try and be more organised and make more of an effort to see his family and I will not expect him to come with me to visit mine incase he wants to make his own plans.

Hes more last minute but then i find people get booked up so to speak so i always plan early to see people.

I think he is going to try the same and i also said if he says to me a date and he wants to go for lunch say i will plan it all and contact his siblings to see if they can come for him etc.