other peoples view

[amuk27]

Hi just wanted to know what people thought about getting back with an ex ? I met my ex boyfriend today after 11years seperated and we really hit it off.we, ve both changed in many ways.Have you or anyone you know done this and did it work out?

Hi folks. We're going to move this to relationships in a moment as it looks like the OP has started this here accidentally.

It must depend on the original reason you broke up.

I met mine after 16 years...within 6 weeks we knew we wanted to be together for the rest of our lives. Now 19 years later, married with a gorgeous Ds age 10 :) follow your heart you will know after a few weeks if its just the thrill of it or for real

Well I first read and my initial impression was - no way! An ex is an ex for a reason. As I read on I thought - that depends.
11 yrs is a long time and people can grow and change a lot. Were you very young when you were together?
I guess with any relationship take it slow and be wary of any problems that crop up that were the original reason for the split.

There's no right answer to this. You're going to get as many people saying it worked out as those saying it didn't. Old flames can be very appealing because you can fast forward the getting to know you stage, pick up where you left off and the passage of time means you forget all the crappy bits that split you up in the first place. Nostalgia in human form.

And that would be my caution.... take it steady, give it time, be realistic about the people you are today, and try not to confuse that exciting buzz of nostalgia and recapturing a younger version of yourself with love.

Hi I was 19 the first time we went out and it was me that ended it.I was more about going out with my friends back then.Im 32 now with a daughter and he has changed alot from what I can gather.Its nice to hear people stories and views on this.Im hoping he is the 1 for me as me for him.we, ve only had 1 date so far and that went really well so hopefully this is a happy story ??