How do you cope when you want to throttle your dh?

[acnebrideofFrankenstein]

No reason - he's just driving me absolutely up the wall.

So much so last week that I arranged an impromptu 3-day w/e for me and ds at my mum's, plus yesterday had to have a day away for a funeral (didn't arrange that myself tho).

How do you cope with the will-you-stop-BREATHING-that-way feeling?

leave the room? count to ten?

sorry to say this, but i think this sounds more like a problem with you than with your dh.

sorry.

i would be questioning whether the relationship had a future,personally.

I have it out with him, clear the air, I have always been painfully truthful with DP even if I know its not been easy to hear

do you feel better after your time apart? I always find it does us wonders (though our time apart is almost always due to work/going out with mates)

I think you need to tell him how you're feeling though.

you're absolutely right urbandryad. [gloom]

yup, need to have a chat. hoo.

send him to his room (Office) like i do with dd when i need time out.

It work's he just made a cup of tea and bought chocolates to me with me asking.

mmm lizzie. that's part of the problem - he's working at home, which means in our one room downstairs as there's nowhere else.

and when i say working at home - he's changed medication recently and it's given him the concentration span of a gnat. he's cheerful though which is good.

we had a chat last night and things are better, although he immediately said 'let's have a holiday, all three of us, let's go to Europe' and i do hate having to be the adult and say 'with what money' as we still haven't had a penny of any of the benefits we applied for in mid july

so we've decided that i'll take a day off work early in November and we'll just go to bed together for the day

at least you resolved it without bloodshed, not sure me and dp will manage that!

so you are at home together every single day? I think I'd be driven mad by that....or do you get to go to an office?

I think going to bed for a whole day together works wonders.

That's probaly the probelm if you are both at home all the time together, i couldn't have dh working from home all the time i would kill as i need my space.

Is there someway you could arrange for an evening each to be out with friends so you can have some time apart.

I'm glad that you have spoken and are trying to sort a way to solve this.

Enjoy your day in bed.

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I just throttle him

I work part time. (get home about 3pm). DH works from home quite a lot. I actively find things to do between finishing work and arriving home if I know he is there working.

If I go home I have to keep quiet coz he is shouting down the phone, whilst his mobile is also bleeping away, plus he rants and raves coz the computer crashes, etc.

Easier for me to spend a couple of hours after I get out of work pootling around TKMax or something, or drinking coffee and reading papers in Starbucks.

Stomp around the kitchen, putting dishes away loudly, slamming cupboard doors, having under-my-breath rant