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Kids Father

9 replies

Thaigal · 25/10/2006 17:17

I have posted on here before about my sons' father. (he bought a sports car when he knew it would be no good for his kids, refuses to pick them up and bring them home for their visits, refuses to buy them a toothbrush for his house saying I should do it etc).

Anyway, on monday I have an important apointment at the hospital (neurologist), I have been waiting 3 months for it. It is at 5:30pm and I will more than likely be in there a while so I know the kids will probably play up...to get to the hospital I have to litrally go past their father's house.

I thought the sensible thing to do would be the ask him if I could drop the boys off there for a couple of hours whilst I went to the hospital, is this a fair thing to ask? they're his kids too!

Anyway he has not even had the decency to reply to my text , Ill give him until 9pm to answer (considering he sleeps during the day so may not have read it yet, however this is unlikely as he's normally up by 2pm and has a habit of ignoring my texts unless they benefit him)...if he hasnt replied by 9pm Ill assume the answer is no.

Do I have a right to be cross if this happens? I feel like sending him a text saying "forget it, god forbid you see your kids any more than you actually have to".

He pisses me off so much, cant do sod all where they're concerned.

OP posts:
Thaigal · 25/10/2006 17:19

should also add that he works nights, hence the day sleeping!

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7up · 25/10/2006 17:23

i thought he would have been pleased to see the boys for an extra visit too be honest.

hope your apt goes ok, is there anyone else could have theboys?

theUrbanDryad · 25/10/2006 18:01

thaigl, i think you would have every right to be cross, but try not to let him see this. be utterly utterly cool and calm. arrange another sitter if this is possible.

he sounds like a total arsewipe. there are men out there who try their damndest to see their children, and then there are wankers like this who don't seem to give a shit.

ok, i'll calm down now!! hope all goes well with your appointment.

tortUREoisechamber · 25/10/2006 18:05

Can you guarentee the text got to him? I don't know you situation but I would prefer to be asked by phone call not rely on a text.
I do think you are right to be cross if he doesn't have them for you after all they are his too.

theUrbanDryad · 25/10/2006 18:08

actually, that's a really good point.

if you're with o2, i know they have been playing up lately with txts.

BATtymumma · 25/10/2006 18:08

i would be angry too.

it really angers me that we have to ask fathers to 'babysit' WTF?? they are their kids as well.

Fluffybubble · 25/10/2006 18:20

Why don't you call his bluff? If he hasn't replied by 9pm then send text saying that as you haven't heard from him that you assume it is fine to drop dc off, thanks ever so much, really appreciate it, see you Monday, etc etc.

That might get a reply!!

7up · 25/10/2006 19:51

thats a good idea fluffybubble.any news yet thaigirl

divastrop · 25/10/2006 20:18

i read ur other post and i know ur not allowed to phone him.
what network are you with?do you get delivery reports from your texts?if ur with o2 type *0# at the start of the text and u will get a delivery report
not that i have experience with useless fathers ignoring txts on purpose or anything

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