p*ssed off with utterly unreliable but v dear old friend!

[RanToTheHills]

still close-ish and was really looking forward to girly night away tomorrow for 1st time in ages. She's child-free so doesn'tquite understand the novely but has cancelled on me, more or less, as has another friend to stay (who i don't really know). i'm fuming, but i know she'd be deeplyoffended if I told her so! Time and time again she's said - must meet up, when can I come and stay and then..silence or she's planned something else! Should i take the hint?!!
just letitng off steam really.

RanToTheHills I do sympathise. For about a year now I've been making plans to visit a friend in another city and about four or five times she has cancelled because something else has come up. I've stopped bothering now, we stay in touch but I don't mention coming over anymore. What was really annoying though was that she cancelled on me but invited another couple over for dinner. I have just accepted that meeting up is not a priority for her.

yes, maybe I should too. We've been on-off like this since school tho and wd hate to lose touch completely. But, tbh, it's clear it's not a huge priority for her meet up. Shame you can't make "old" friends, can you? never quite the same familiarity

I know what you mean, it's just different when you have a history together, and it is quite hurtful when this happens, even though I try not to dwell on it. I think the thing with my friend is that our worlds are very different and maybe she feels we don't relate that well to each other any more, which is sad as friendships should last through changes in peoples' lives.