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What's the longest you've spent not talking to each other?

28 replies

MsRabble · 28/02/2015 00:27

...while living together, I mean. It's almost a week now for us and I have been sleeping in spare bed as well. I get no reaction from Mr No Emotions so not sure where it's going.
But anyway: do you remember who made the first move to making peace again (if at all)?

OP posts:
CalicoBlue · 28/02/2015 11:28

DH really upset me a year ago. He did something that he knew would upset me, did not tell me, then when I found out lied about it.

I did not talk to him for nearly a week. Then I realised that I either had to leave or get over it. So I started talking to him again. Took months to get back to normal though.

I know it is childish but not talking and withdrawing is my way of dealing with things.

lovemenot · 28/02/2015 20:46

The longest while we were still officially together was 45 days.

Every argument resulted in him being aggressive and me not being able to actually discuss the issue. He hates being wrong, or not even wrong but even having his opinion questioned. My opinion was never sought and never valued. The "fixer" of each argument was always, always me. At which point I would get blamed again.

So I stopped. I stopped trying to fix it. I pulled a big cloak of self protection around me. I lasted a couple of weeks, and then I asked him could we talk. He told me he had no intention of discussing things just because I was ready to. So the stalemate continued.

Long story short. We are separating. We still live in the same house. I live in my bedroom. He is employing every delaying tactic he can with the solicitors. We have spoken only a couple of words in the last 14 months.

bimbobaggins · 28/02/2015 21:01

8 months. Slept on the sofa the whole time. Separated now.

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