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Book for children who's parents are separated?

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MrsIcarus2 · 27/02/2015 20:29

I have a lovely friend whose husband left her for the OW. Friend has three children, aged 6, 4.5 and 1.5. The children see EXH twice a week.
He is filling their heads with comments like "Daddy is so poor now as he has to give all his money to Mummy". The poor DC are so confused, but are taking sides against my friend. If she tells them off, the eldest says things like "I'll tell Daddy you were mean to us".
Does anyone have any recommendations for books that my friend could share with her children to help them to understand that what Daddy says isn't always true (or not as simple as he makes it sound)?
Thank you very much.

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MrsIcarus2 · 27/02/2015 20:30

Sorry, title should say whose not who's.

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JsOtherHalf · 27/02/2015 21:24

Have a look here for some ideas:
www.healthybooks.org.uk/category/8/

MrsIcarus2 · 27/02/2015 21:40

Thank you for the link. I've had a look at some of them. There seem to be lots to choose from, but I'm struggling with this particular aspect. I might try the library tomorrow when I can look at what's covered in the different books. Thanks again.

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oldcroneat39 · 27/02/2015 21:42

A (careful) review of jacqueline wilson will give you some single parents / blended family type stories. Though she can be quite harsh on those mums.

MrsIcarus2 · 27/02/2015 21:48

Thank you. I'll have a look for those too. I feel so helpless that my friend is having to deal with her arrogant, spiteful ex who should know better than to use the children to get at her. Thank you for the suggestions.

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Brandnewstart · 27/02/2015 22:10

I found the Gingerbread website helpful.

JsOtherHalf · 27/02/2015 22:11

If you click on the individual titles, the librarian reviews them, and gives a good idea of the themes.

MrsIcarus2 · 27/02/2015 22:45

Thank you both. JS - I've clicked through to them and found a couple that mention not getting "caught in the middle". I think perhaps what's needed is advice for my friend on how to respond when the children say such things. Thanks for all the help.

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BlackeyedSusan · 27/02/2015 23:12

there are quite a few in our local library. they tend to be quite good at this sort of thing.

dd has read several of them.

JsOtherHalf · 28/02/2015 07:42

You're welcome.

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