I always feel like an outsider in every friendship group/social circle

[mayaknew]

Does anyone else feel like this ? In any kind of group situations I always feel like I don't really fit in . I'm just thinking if it's me sort of "outsiding" myself or whether I am a bit different and don't fit in particularly well .

I have two very good friends from school I'm still close with (although being the only mum in that group I am a bit of an outsider) and two other separate friends I'm close with and feel we click and get on well .

I'm more talking about day to day or unavoidable situations . Like work and uni . And in social situations with DHs circle of friends . One of the friends from above I know through one of DHs friends and she feels like she belongs there within that circle , whereas I've known them all a long time (been with dh since high school) and I feel like I'm just DHs wife - an add on iyswim ?

Is it just me ?

I'm like this, I notice it more at school pick up when I'm the only one stood there alone as everyone one else is in groups and I have one friend in my childs year and some days she's at work. I have no real friends in my life at all I have people I might chat with every so often but not to go out or have a drink with ect.

I've always been this way feeling like I don't fit in and I'm not wanted. I feel awkward around my own parents and end up staying the most random of things.

I'm just strange

I'm so glad I've posted this I really am getting a bit of insight into it . Having read the posts about being more comfortable in 1:1 or smaller groups I've thought of another example .

In group of friends I've had for a number of years one of them had a big birthday and invited us plus a few of our other friends for a meal . When I arrived her friend I had never met before was the only one there . We chatted for ages and I had a great time but then when everyone else started to arrive I began to get more uncomfortable and I ended up being left out of conversations .

This is so great I feel like I'm learning so much about myself I really never even thought about that until just now .

Another outsider place marking .

I was so uncomfortable on the school run today . All of the other Mums stood in groups, and seemed to know all of each others' business.

Someone felt sorry for me and talked to me when I was leaving .

I feel like this too. I have some really good friends but I'm much better in small groups or one on one.

I think it's cos I'm not very funny and don't do well in drinking and banter type situations I try to remember that I do have lots of good qualities and being witty isn't everything but it does still give me that high school feeling of not fitting in and never being part of the cool crowd. Sigh...

Place mark. :) it is always a relief with threads like this. I used to feel so lonely and on the outside. Now it is my own choice and I am often alone but not lonely.
It helped to read about asperger for me. Not sure if it fits, it will be on the high functioning end of the scale. But it was all so familiar to read about and it led to me understanding weird incidents in the past. I can now accept who I am and feel comfortable in my own skin.
Not saying that all people who feel like outsiders must have asperger!

We should all meet up in a group and see what happens Maybe, just maybe, we'd all make a conscious effort to include one another and it would be great.

I'm not at the stage of school runs yet, is it always the same groups that are together? You'd think there'd be more people stood on their own or in pairs.. I'm hoping to just chat to different people each time, I don't like committing to one person/group. I'm actually quite sociable and want to chat to people but would back away from cliquey gatherings.

This is so hard for me. i dont fit in with anyone at school. i feel horrible. i feel like im always alone. i was always bullied. i am obsessed with anime and i dont relate to anyone. Im always the outsider. i feel like nobody understands me. so i usually cry secretly. i get too scared to open up to my parents. but i know that know matter what i will never have anyone. I will always be alone. Always the outsider. i wanna be normal.

I have felt like an outsider all of my life, even though I am a confident person. I used to contort myself to fit in group situations, try to fake it, which often makes it worse because people can tell you are not being natural. As I have gotten older the less it matters. I like my own company (and my OH) and on the rare occasions I have to do a group situation I just grin and bear it, don't sweat it, because I know it will soon end.

I'm the same. I'm autistic. It is hard because I really want to be part of a group but I never really fit in.

Meeee! I think it's more to do with being an introvert than anything else though. Also I think it's a vicious cycle - you feel left out so don't make as much of an effort, the others in the group think you're not bothered so don't include you as much, which makes you feel even more left out...

Also, not sure if this applies to anyone else but I think I grew up feeling like this. I always felt like bit of a loner within my family and if you think about it our family are our first friendship group. Just me?