My DP says he can't wait to be married to me, but is actually showing ZERO enthusiasm in planning the actual day. And I find it annoying, and worrying.
He's 45 and this'd be his first marriage. He says he never wanted to get married before, but I don't know if he really wants to now!
He says he's very happy for me to choose all the stuff. But that's actually depressing me. How miserable is planning a wedding on your own?! And if course it just heaps all the stress onto my shoulders.
He's planned/booked the honeymoon. We're saving up the money together (which is stressful as it leaves us both skint). I'm choosing the readings, flowers, making the invites, making the table centrepieces, reading about weddings, liaising with the venue, liaising with the church, dieting and working out every day to look nice, meeting girlfriends to look at dresses, make-up, reading wedding blogs.. He's doing nothing.
If I ask him to do something, he will. But he's not enthusiastic. We have to book a time to go along to have our "tasting menu" at the venue and I thought he'd love that (he loves food!). But when I reminded him we have to book it, his face settled into this "oh, wedding homework" expression.
I've said a MILLION times, if you don't want to do this, just admit it!! But he always says he does. Then comes out with the crap line, "I'm a bloke! I don't care about weddings. Anything you want will be fine!"
Part of me wants to carry on planning a wonderful day, the other part wants to tell him to shove the wedding up his uninterested arse and I'll spend my half of our wedding savings on other, more useful stuff (like the big tax bill I've just received).
How involved was your DH?? And if he wasn't involved, did you still go on to have a lovely marriage anyway, or (looking back) was it really an indication of his secret reluctance to actually be married?