In need of some tough love

[perfectlyincapable]

So I got with a guy last year for a few months, we were both fresh out of long term relationships and probably rebounding.
I went insane over this guy in terms I was obsessed and we were together all the time very sweet words of promises blah blah, anyway we split, well I got dumped because he wasn't sure what he wanted and funnily enough he went back to his ex and I broke down, lost my job and went into self destruct, slowly I started getting better but...

Months on I'm still a bit broken and hanging on to anything I can with the stupid hope that he will realise that I'm the one he wants, today he got back in contact just friendly, him and his gf are rocky, I am sadly back to square one.

Tell me to grow up and how to get over it.
I'm a fully grown adult for crying out loud.

I don't know how you can believe that he is truly interested in you!

Personally I couldn't bear to be with anyone who had ditched me to be with someone else only to come running back when it all went wrong.

Did his ex see him with you, decide she was jealous, took him back, realise she didn't want him after all, bin him off, so he came back to you?

If the above is right then imo you need to take your rose tinted glasses off.

Of course he has nice qualities.

A man will follow his heart every time. His heart imo is not with you.

just how long ago did he split up with his ex-gf? im afraid im pretty suspicious of him. He must have known how you felt about him but he turned up on your doorstep just wanting friendship ... really? knowing how you felt? Not kind. Not kind at all.

now he's back again? Like i say, if this last split was weeks ago - tell him to wait some months. If it was months ago, then just maybe. But he's made a poor showing.

You are his Miss Right...Miss Right Now. You weren't good enough for him to stay with the first time and he'll use you until something better comes along. Don't let him use and dump you again, he will, I'm pretty sure of that

you say as soon as his ex knows youre on the scene she will come running? maybe thats what he wants? maybe youre being used. maybe hes not nice.

I agree with the above- he is using you.
He is parlaying your long history of knowing each other into a scenario where you wouldn't want to hurt him and he is enjoying your attentions in nurturing him after his difficult times with his girlfriend (ex, or maybe not so ex?), poor diddums, there, there.
This, however, is not a two way street. You are the fall back, good enough for now, (and at some point- dependable booty call for when he wants servicing) girl.
Don't be so desperate. It is, well, embarrassing.

He didn't contact you in z friendly way...he contacted you to see how the land lies with you and if you are ready and waiting in case his g/f dumps him. He needs you to be an understudy for a while, this will not be a permanent position just a fill in while he looks for a better replacement.

Do you really want this job?