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Anyone had a rocky start / split up to end up together?

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jessmay · 26/02/2015 16:05

Just a question I was wondering about.

I met someone I really liked around a year ago but I was too soon out of a very bad LTR and ended up splitting up after we'd only been dating a month. I was just not ready, he was wanting kids and marriage and he felt it was too soon for me and admittedly emotionally I was all over the place.

We stayed in touch and I do still really like him and was just wondering if relationships after bad first impressions or rocky starts were ever worth thinking of?

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bobbywash · 26/02/2015 16:29

Yep they are, a friend of mine met a man after his recent bad divorce, they dated and he said he needed to go and get his head sorted out.

He did, and after a while, he came back and they have been married for 15 years with 2 children.

SirVixofVixHall · 26/02/2015 16:32

Yes. We split up after nearly a year of dating, mainly due to DH being 8 years younger than me, less emotionally grown up, and at a different life stage. We crossed paths by accident a year after splitting up, and then stayed in touch, talking about what had gone wrong, and got back together about year after that. It is now 20 years since we first met and we are very happily married.

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jessmay · 26/02/2015 16:45

So a bit of time can give you a clean slate? Interesting...I might think about seeing him then. There's some mutual friends having a meet up and I do think about him from time to time. He was great - just bad timing.

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PrettyFeet · 26/02/2015 17:01

Friend of mine was with a man for 15 years and had two children. They split for 3 and a half years. Have been back together for the last 5 years and are happier than ever.

First time round he was a chauvinist p** for want of a better phrase. Now he's fantastic and does more than his fair share at home. Friend and I laugh and say he's too scared not to as he knows she means business

I know this isn't exactly what the OP was referring to but its still a positive on people splitting and reuniting.

SirVixofVixHall · 26/02/2015 18:01

Sometimes it really is just bad timing, and a bit of time and distance can help. If you still like him now, then maybe talk to him about it?

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