Is this person two-faced?

[Molotov]

I've known this friend for about 2y. She's often really nice, but says and does things that I can't work out. She has been very, very vocal about what traits she finds irritating in people, and has named people we know who, in her opinion, have these traits. I feel the same as her and have as little do with those people as possible. Yet, she regularly socialises/goes out with the particular individuals and sometimes really fawns over them.

Sometimes she talks to me a lot; other times she is really cagey. I'm beginning to feel quite wary around her and don't feel like I can trust her. Is this a person who I should keep my distance from?

Defo 2faced, probably calling you names to the people she talks to you about! I wouldn't like that!!

I wondered that, too ...

Yep, two-faced alright! She most definitely will have things to say behind your back I'm afraid. These types always do!

Could that be because she wants to be liked by everyone?

If she's saying those things about others she socialised with I'd lay money she does the same about you when she's with them.

I have no doubt at all that she talks behind your back too. Some people are desperate to say the 'right' things and be liked that they won't necessarily say what they mean but what they think people want to hear. I'd step back from the friendship slightly or not reveal parts of myself.

Oh yes. Two faced.

You can bet your life that she's saying exactly the same things to others about you.

People like that always do.

If she wanted to be liked by everyone, she'd be better off being a nice person who didn't slag people off behind their backs.

I know I have never listened to someone being spiteful about others and thought aw, isn't s/he lovely - have you?

I've already stopped revealing some of my thoughts and do feel guarded. I wondered if I was being silly/slightly paranoid, but from the looks here, I'm not. I will need to take a step back.

She definitely sounds like one to watch out for. I would refrain from confiding in her especially anything you don't want other people to know about.

If she is bitching about these people yet "friendly" to their face, you can bet your bottom dollar she will be doing the same to you.

This happened to me just last week. A friend of mine who is rather vocal about her opinions of others, was sat with a couple of people and I heard her talking about me. I couldn't hear all of it, but it was not very nice and I felt hurt by it. I haven't told her and do not intend to, but I have been keeping my distance from her and I watch everything I say around her now.

OP, you look like you spotted her quite quickly. Good on you. Avoid rather than restrict what you talk about. I would in a heartbeat

Berrie,

why do you waste more time on her if you know she's a back stabber? She is no friend

I wouldn't life's too short to waste it with people who would rather crap all over you rather than be a true friend. True friends don't talk nasty about their friends. Nasty non-friends talk behind the backs of the 'friends'

Tell her something benign, but distinguishable and see if it gets back to you from mutual friends .