selfish? brave? running away?

[ggg123]

I know this is relationships but didn't know where else to post....
I have a question :)
Trying to cut a very long story short.... would it be selfish of me to move 40miles away. Sell my home to rent? Change my daughter's school? All because I feel like a fresh start is needed after being separated for 4 years, almost divorced and being bought up in a very dysfunctional family which I no longer really see apart from parents that still drain me and leave me with awful memories.
Selfish? Brave? Running away?

ggg123 - you've done so much! I'm in awe. Hats off to you, woman. It seems so unfair that you're not able to get onto a course after trying so very hard, and the feeling of being rejected is so horrible. Is there any way that you can get more support/advice next time around - I seriously urge you to try, because it can make all the difference, especially with a competitive course, and you really have done so much that it seems a shame to throw that away.

In terms of unis, are you restricted in terms of where you are applying to places close to where you are now living? Would you have more options further afield? This might be a really good reason to move, if you had the whole package in place.

Another idea - before abandoning the idea of education completely, have a think laterally whether there related but different jobs you could do? There are so many jobs in the medical area that have specific training beyond being a doctor or a nurse. For example, if you did a biology degree with the OU, specialising in the medical modules, you could maybe think about postgrad training to be a nutritionist. Etc. etc. etc.

Joysmum - Exactly! I have no clue! Hoping to find happy I guess. Hate saying that as my mother was never happy, still isn't! I don't want to be that person. Although my girls come first. My mum always put herself first. I guess I'm scared I'm doing that.
Shovetheholly - thankyou so much :) up until yesterday nothing was going to get in my way and then I had the email and it's like I took a deep breath and thought ok. Last year I cried but this year I just kinda feel deflated. I live in wales and my qualifications are only recognised here so I have 3 uni's one being an hour away. It's midwifery I want to do. Nothing really compares to how much I want that :( but yes there are lots of other health professions. I've never really thought about it. Maybe I need to ask someone. The uni's kinda see us as numbers not actual people. We are put through to admissions not the actual tutors.
Thankyou for the advice really really appreciate it :)
My daughter has one year in junior so that would mean moving next year if I applied again, somewhere further. Would that then be selfish?

How about seeing a financial advisor about what best to do with the house and work out a plan? If it turns out moving is an option, then I say go for it. It's a big world out there and there is so much to see.
Even a small move is a step towards adventure.

Thats a good idea thankyou :) I am really unsure I could remortgage but it's worth a try. It seems to be the biggest thing keeping me here at the moment. Aww thankyou :)

I would encourage you to go for it, so long as you have a good plan and have set out your budget and know what you're getting into. Moving out of a small town could be incredibly beneficial for your girls. (Sorry to anyone who loves their small town, but I grew up in one and I feckin hated it!)

I presume the girls would go visit their dad in your current town regularly, so would be able to keep up with old friends? And of course would make new ones at a new school. I think you would undoubtedly have more opportunities to make friends for yourself too, just because there tends to be more things going on in cities that welcome single people just turning up and making friends.