Please tell me this isn't a normal friendship. I'm losing my damn mind here

[FoxyLoxie]

Won't drip feed or go into specific things she does as it's too long but basically:

Cold to my children
My heart beats fast in conversations with her, good or bad
I feel as though I walk on eggshells around her a lot
She makes me feel severely scrutinised and judged when I'm talking to her
I feel very uncomfortable around her generally

Is this a toxic friendship yes? I just need to move on don't I? Feel like I need clarification though. Never felt this bad before in a friendship aside from the school bully when I was young.

I don't think you gain much by being around people who make you feel uncomfortable. You can't always put your finger on why you don't click, but once you're conscious of it, I think it's best to back slowly away!!

Surely a friend is, by definition, someone you feel easy with and like to be with? What's the back story?

Just a thought but does she have any idea she makes you feel like this or is she, maybe slightly aloof in her style? Some people come over like that bit really don't know it you, mum!

I had a friendship like that, can really relate to the heart beat stuff, got a horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach when her name flashed up on my phone too

Cut her out completely. Best thing I ever did. Really recommend it! Maybe phase her out? She may not go easily though

That's not friendship.

To me a friend should be someone you want to spend time with. If she is making you feel bad, then that's toxic for you. She may have other people who find her okay.

Cold to your children, makes you feel judged, and you're walking on eggshells?

This is not my definition of a friendship in the first place. So it's neither toxic nor abnormal, just someone you don't like, and therefore not a friend of yours.

...she wouldn't be a friend of mine either!