Husband looked up a prostitute on Adultwork

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Namechanged - as I don't want my past history to influence this problem.

DH's laptop was always locked down, and there was no way into it (he looked at Adultwork before, but had a 'plausible' reason, and I let it go).

When his laptop broke, he started using the PC.

My laptop's wifi was playing up, and I needed to look up something for the heating engineer, so went onto the PC.

I know it's wrong, but I decided to check the internet history on there.

There were tons of hits to a site called ImageFap... most that DH looked at were young girls. He also looked at gay porn. The thing that most irked me though, was the discovery of him looking at a prostitute in our town on Adultwork.

I asked DH about my discovery, and he claimed that Imagefap was a "terrible" site, where paedophiles uploaded photos, so he went on there to report the photos (hmmm... right!)

The prostitute? Well he claims that he was searching to find out if there was one he knew! He asked didn't I look at dating sites to see if there were people I know on there (erm, NO!)

When I said the prostitute's name he said "I don't know THEIR names" (there was I thinking it was only one he'd looked at).

So am I right to believe that men don't really look up prostitutes in their area to see if they know them? And is he really looking at young girls, in order to report the photos?

As a man i'll sum this up for you.

He's addicted to porn. And the more he looks the more he needs to get his kick. Starts off with normal porn, escalates to more "varied" stuff (eg gay porn, even tho he's not gay). Adultwork, well he's at least THINKING of going with a prostitute - if he hasnt already. Keep an eye on any cash withdrawals around the £60 mark that go unexplained.
As for him not wanting sex with you - this is either due to the fact that he cant maintain an erection during sex with you (am i right?) which is caused by the excessive porn habit (his brain has been trained to need constant explicit images to stay hard) AND/OR he actually prefers internet porn more than actual sex. Wierd eh? Yh, it exists. And it way more common than you women would think.
There are ways out of this tho, he needs to, obviously, stop looking at porn. But even then it'd take him about 3 months MINIMUM without masturbating to get back to the normal mindset. But even then one porn image could send him off the wagon again.

For all that, if he knows that you know and that youre concerned and you want to help him out of this habit it'd have a massive impact.

Hope this helps.

Lovely.

...and on a thread that is month's old. Erinsdad is bumping all sorts of old porn/aworks threads to defend the men that use them. Interesting.

As a man i'll sum this up for you.

Classic.

Erinsdad.. This is not adult work. This is mumsnet. Hope that helps.

Ladies,

I am part time escort as I am trying to finish my saving for the flat by this additional income.I feel sorry for every woman that found out we husband browsing adult work. This is a shitty website with a lot of cheap escorts and it is simply dangerous due to services they offer and the very low prices .
Please remember they do not browse this page for fun, they do this as they use escort services.
Whilst they try once they will keep doing it.It is addictive and I saw that looking at some of my clients ( I can recognize easily if they do this first time or not ).
I noticed when they are the first time users and it happens for me to be their frat escort then they go crazy and visit millions of them.
They don't even feel sorry that they cheat, they worry go nothing come out.
When you are an escort you can see a disgusting side of married men.
And I look at that and I feel sick.they all watch disgusting porn , are not able to do these porn thins with wives so they look for an escort .

I have looked through adult work with my friends before to see if we knew anykne/for a laigh, some of the stuff on it is weird.
Imaybe it was for wanking like a fantasy?