Does anyone one know the usual form to expect please!

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Split for my horrible h 2 weeks ago after 25 yrs and so far have had
Niceness
Spitefulness
Self pity
Threats
Evil comments
What can I expect next please?
I am feeling strong but he keeps blind siding me with his weird texts

Why are you reading them~? Block him or delete without reading - take some control. You have split from him - well done OP - now statrt living your life as a free person.

You decide what comes next in your life, not him. Embrace the change.

Suicide threats.

And yes, block his texts.

Go no contact with him.

That is the best advice there is.

You could also get seemingly calm texts noting how he's been doing with something that (maybe) he's always wanted to do - kangaroo riding or such - or detailing what a great time he had with his new girlfriend etc etc.

They would just be designed to get some reaction from you so don't even read them. Just block him - or delete withut reading or responding if, for some reason, you can't block.

Enjoy your new life.

Try not to fall into any bear traps, such as thinking you can help him through it, or something like that. I split from my abusive idiot ex in late 2013 and I wish I'd saved myself a lot of extra grief by cutting him off and blocking him earlier. For the "sake" of the children I kept the lines of communication open which he roundly abused.

Now, after abuse and threats, I have him blocked (since Christmas).

You don't have to put up with that rubbish. And my god, they're all the bloody same aren't they! Threats, suicide pity me parties, thinking only of themselves.

Buckle up for more whiny nonsense from him, get harder, and enjoy your freedom

Do you have young children that you have to speak to him about? If not, block his calls and texts.

No children grown up. I have been replying as you said Peppermint as tried to help him.
He thanks me then a few hours later I get something nasty said.
We have ties in a business but he hasnt mentioned that...yet!

Thank you for the replies.
What do you do if they threaten suicide! hadnt imagined that one

If he threatens suicide? Delete the message and ignore him. (I'm assuming that you might have to continue to check texts/mails because he might be including business details or something to do with the children, grown up or not.) It will be manipulation as before.

Yes Cozie I do need to have some contact for practical stuff. I think I would struggle with a suicide threat even though I am 100% I don't want him back as he is a liar and a cheat. I just find all the motions very tiresome.
He was to blame yet he won't leave me alone

I'm afraid that there's also always the possibility that if he can't reach you by text/email etc, he'll then try to reach you through the children/mutual acquaintances etc. (They really hate losing that control and attention.) just be armoured against that chance.

I do feel he is seeking attention all the time, he is an absolute pain

What do you do if they threaten suicide! hadnt imagined that one

Only response 'Crack on mate.'

Delicious you just had me in fits!! Love it

I actually laughed when I read that!

Can you tell - I had one of these. I was well past the stage of giving a shiny shit by then though.

His best line was [with tears running down his face] 'I taught myself to clean the toilet so you don't have to but my mum had to show me how to use the washing machine. [6 weeks after I left]. So, me and a chum went round the next day whilst he was at work, and took the washing machine, microwave and the fridge freezer and my Marshall Stack amp [they were all mine]. Problem solved. Best van hire experience ever.

So it sounds (unfortunately) as if you have to maintain some contact with him because of the business?

Can you use a 'middle-man/woman'? Someone who can look at his emails/texts before you open them and just delete the crap ones? I did this for a friend for her emails for awhile, until she got strong enough to tell him to just fuck off.

Suicide threat? I'd probably text him back that I was calling 911 (your 999?) and sending the police to his door to take him to the hospital on a 5150. That'd learn 'im!!

Yy, Delicious is spot on.

Also:

• Flowers and gifts

• The 'I'm worried about your mental health' speech

• excuses to invade your space or push the boundaries.

For instance - sudden need to pick up an item that's been left, drop off something of yours, see the children in your home (not applicable in your case, thank goodness)

I am at that stage too Delicious, worth every penny for the van I bet

If he turns up with gifts or flowers I would be amazed as haven't had any off him for years! wouldnt work though

I like the 999 idea but I think Delicious wins on that, sorry