friendship

[jesy]

Hi
Just would like ppl thoughts.

I have a lovely bf who I see loads, mix with his mates better than I did a few teething issues but any way that not my real problem.

I feel excluded from my former work mates, we text occasionally with me starting it and have been asked out with my bf tonight as they with partners ect for early evening drinks but I get feeling I was an after thought not to fussed about that it's the other issues.
I suggested going to a charity night doing what they were talking about and it was dismissed , but now found out that over next week or so there other stuff which not been asked to.

I have no idea why I'm so hurt

Do the former work-mates still work together? Do you work at a new place? Sometimes it's not malicious behaviour but a simple case of 'out of sight out of mind'. That's why it's important to keep making new friends.

No they don't all still work together in fact two that going have never worked in that area

You've heard the expression 'three's a crowd'?.... If they don't want to spend time with you, don't keep pushing yourself on them only to be knocked back. It's demeaning. Find people who you like and who like you and move on with your life. Leave the wishy-washies behind.

I'm confused whether the bf friends are the same as the ex work friends or 2 different groups of people.

They are my former co workers one I've known ten years

I'm not pushing myself on them far from it

The other stuff that you weren't asked to, was it just the people who still work together and their partners?

Maybe this is a bigger 'event' but the other ones were more spur of the moment, organised on a coffee break from work sort of thing.

No it was just the girls , I'm just being sensitive I guess

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