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How to handle a breakup even

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obviouslyneedsupernanny · 23/02/2015 17:10

When you know it's for the best? I've just gotten out of a bad relationship, a decision I'd been dithering about for months. I know that in the long run I will be happier but because I feel sort of in shock I am focusing on only the good bits and feeling regret..he was not physically abusive, verbally at times and I was not happy. But I was used to it and, as weird as it sounds even to me, comfortable. How do I get through the next few days when i miss the stability and comfort of him even though he was not right for me and not making me happy?

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Linguini · 23/02/2015 17:28

I left a total bell end who i was for some reason madly in love with.

When i left i got my hair done in a new style, and spent evenings watching Misfits on E4 which he hated.

Pamper yourself!

pocketsaviour · 23/02/2015 22:01

Do all the stuff that you haven't been doing while you've been with him because he didn't like it. Play your heavy metal CDs, watch crap TV, stay in your PJs all weekend. Whatever floats your boat. And give yourself a bit of time to grieve, it's always hard leaving a relationship.

oldcroneat39 · 23/02/2015 23:12

I definitely agree with the suggestions of indulging yourself in things you'd curtailed for or in the relationship. For me that was eating all the garlic (he hated it). Colouring in (he ridiculed that) and buying a few new books (he was controlling financially). It felt damned good. I relished (and still do) room to breathe and do little things that are for me.

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