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is this what happens when you get....

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isthiswhathappenswhen · 23/02/2015 16:33

just wondering something...would appreciate advice.

we are retired, 71 &67.
the saying, an old soldier never dies, just fades away, comes to my mind.

we have 4 adult dc, numerous gc.
sounds good so far.
the problem is they all emigrated some years ago.
before they emigrated, our home was the central meeting place for them all.
then slowly it all kind of evaporated, until there was none.

we sold up and retired to the south coast, which is lovely, we are happy together, but simply have no family left to visit us, or for us to visit here in the uk.

one sibling in Scotland , a cousin in wales,

the usual celebrations...mother/fathers day, birthdays/Christmas and so on, are spent on Skype, with no physical contact in real life.
we visit when we can, but it's expensive and long haul, which we are finding more difficult each year.

so, back to the old soldier thing, will we just fade away!it feels like it!

OP posts:
CogitoErgoSometimes · 23/02/2015 17:06

It's lovely when family choose to stay close but, even though you miss them, I don't think you'd have ever wanted to stand in their way of making new lives overseas. If you don't want to fade away I'd suggest you get very active in your new community making new friends and refilling your home. Either that or consider relocating to be nearer some of your DCs?

ScrambledEggAndToast · 26/02/2015 08:18

At least you've got places to go on holiday to, only got to pay for your flights. You're not exactly ancient are you?

trackrBird · 26/02/2015 09:00

All 4 emigrated! Lovely for them, tough for you, in my view.

Putting it bluntly, they are young and relatively fit, and have family around them, which makes life look fairly good. You're perhaps not feeling as young as you'd like to be, no family around, and the fact you're finding the flights harder suggests you're feeling the pinch physically.

Is there any chance of relocating to be nearer family? Or do you feel you could make a new 'family' of friends here? That's not as easy as it sounds, but could you?

shovetheholly · 26/02/2015 09:08

OP, I feel for you. Do your family never come to visit the UK? Is it always you taking the flights overseas?

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