To think its really over?

[BattlingOnAgain]

Hi, sorry I'm new here so this could take a while.
Current situation im in, I have a beautiful DD who's 1 next week, and a DF who works CONSTANTLY!
DF had decided to move his DB into our home, seven weeks ago for a "couple of nights". He's lived with us before, before I had my dd and he was a nightmare! He's a slob, doesn't work at all, smokes and drinks way too much and to top it off, speaks no English what so ever(df is Romanian). Me and dd have been stuck in our bedroom all day today, as df had a day off work he was entitled to spend all day drinking, smoking and being a general asshole with all SEVEN Romanian dickheads!
Dd is a little strong willed at the moment, it's a constant battle to get her to eat, drink, sleep, stop hitting me with a bloody hairbrush etc and all df does is sit on his ass. I have no help whatsoever with dd or the house, and truth be told im v.angry all the time.
After telling him how shit life has become with his brother here, him constantly being away or out or down the pub, being stuck in a bedroom all day and night because dd is terrified of his brother and friends, he implied it was ME with the problems, he couldn't see no reason why im so unhappy.
I've told him im lonely, he's never here, I have no family nearby, but have an amazing group of friends who think, to say politely, he is an idiot, and im one for putting up with him.
I was diagnosed with postnatal depression and an anxiety disorder about six months ago, he point blanked refused to accept that there was something wrong with me and I needed medical help. I've been referred for cbt therapy, still waiting.l for that.
I'm constantly told what an unfit mother I am, how fat I've got (I put on 4stone I pregnancy and had a lot of problems) and how lucky I am to have someone like me. I'm in tears constantly, I feel like im drowning and dd is now having awful tantrums and being such a handful i know its my fault she's like this.
I've asked him to leave several times, earlier today in fact, and he just laughed in my face saying id never cope; jeez, I feel like a single parent already. He pays all the bills and dictates what money I can have, and too top it all off, he's told me that if I leave him, he will take dd away from me and back to Romania and I will never see her again.
Sorry for the long post, just feel so sad, angry and really could do with some advice on what to do next.

Thank you all so much

If you didn't put a stop to it your daughter would grow up thinking this is how women should be treated by men, and would very possibly recreate the relationship for herself as an adult. It would make her much more vulnerable to all forms of domestic abuse.

You know she is worth so much more than that. And so are you. Good for you for protecting her and yourself from any more abuse.

You've done the right thing.
You need time to adjust to peace and quiet now [smie]

That's what spurred me on. I pretended that it was dd telling me what her partner was doing and what she should do. That gave me the motivation to sort this whole mess out.
Actually woken up this morning with a sense of relief and feeling happier than I have in a long while.
I know its not going to be easy, but it will all be worth it for dd to grow up in a calm and peaceful household.
Thank you all so much, just needed some reassurance that I was doing the right thing
to all of you

Well done OP.
That was hard to do but you did it.
Please just keep him away now.
No contact.
Your life will no be easier with him out of that house.

Your life will now!!!

You are brilliant! You don't know it yet but pretty soon you're going to start feeling so much better. My ex was very similar to yours and I wanted him out for years, even so the first few days were awful, looking back I was probably in shock because he'd been very aggressive before he was made to leave. I've never felt so scared, sad and lonely as I did those first few days, it's perfectly natural as it's a huge life changing event. Try this, imagine he is back and you're together again. How does that feel? Worse than you do right how I bet. That's how I thought of it, I felt bad but not nearly so bad as I would feel if I had to have him and his horrendous behaviour back.