I know what I think, what do you reckon?

[ScrambledEggAndToast]

I met this guy on POF earlier in the week and we agreed to go out yesterday. We chatted on Thursday night and got on so well we ended up chatting for 1hr, 20 mins. I honestly don't know where the time went.

Anyhow, he told me that he had been single for about a year and had been due to move to Manchester with his ex but about 2 months before the move she said she didn't want him to come. All fine and taken at face value.

Anyhow, today, whilst having a look snoop at his FB posts and pics, the pics seem to suggest that he had a girlfriend in July last year and they booked a holiday to Singapore for November. Whether that went ahead I have no idea.

He has another holiday to Singapore booked in June and he says he is going alone because a mate let him down last minute (is February last minute??!!). To me that sounds more like it was a holiday booked as a couple and then they split. BTW, the reason he goes to Singapore so often is because his sister lives there.

Sooo, do I bother with a second date? He asked me and I said yes but now I'm wavering. Technically, I was a bit economical with the truth re. Last bf. I said I had been single 6 months, when it's more like 4 with a brief fling in between. So really, I'm not bothered if it hasn't been a whole year he's been single. as long as they aren't together or they didn't split up last week!

yes, you do a second date.

Simple and to the point, I like it

Well you need to get this ironed out, like, today - set a precedent for upfront communication.

Feb is not last minute is it? Weird. If his sister lives in Singapore I would not assume this was a couple's holiday I don't think.

Now that it's more then six months since Jul he might be stretching it a bit, same as you?

You are reading a lot into this, considering you met once.

What vibe did you get from meeting him yesterday?

Oh god. This sounds like a guy I dated from POF. Ex didn't want to move, so came alone... Turned out he'd moved from the south and left the ex there, along with his daughter who he hadn't bothered seeing since.

I know, it does sound like I'm reading into it a lot. It's just I have been messed about a lot although I know I should try and not pass that onto every man I meet.

We seemed to get on OK. He was quite keen though, as in trying to hold my hand within 5 minutes of meeting me which I was a bit uncomfortable with. As the night progressed, I felt more comfortable and there was a bit of hand holding and a peck on the cheek at the end of the night. We had loads to talk about so will be good to have a second date.

Gotta go with your gut, Scrambled, can you ring him later and probe further? You should feel you can do this, as you are totally allowed to 'suss each other out'.

I did this with the guy I met online. Anything I was not comfortable about I just probed further - you have nothing to lose!!!!!!!

He might think I'm a weird stalker though!

I was right, he had a girlfriend (or I'm 99% sure I'm right!!) I liked a post on FB from the end of 2014 where he had mentioned this lady that I thought was his gf just to see what happened then within 2 hours I had been de friended He must have bricked it.

I have blocked him on POF now, on with the search. Moral of the story, always follow your instincts.

Some people can't even lie properly! I met a guy from an hr away online. He insisted on coming here (didn't drive, I do and said I was happy to drive to his town) staying in a hotel etc. Insisted he was single. I checked him out on FB, obviously still in a relationship! He wanted another date but really didn't want me to drive to his town - doh! Idiots

OMG shocker

Good on you, Scrambled you dodged a bullet - good spidey senses

Next!!!!

According to my ex he was single since November 2013 when he started carrying on with OW. News to me!! We broke up in September 2014 when I found out he'd been cheating. Twat.

On the date actually I was slightly suspicious about a phone call he got from his "mum". Now I am even more suspicious. His side of the call went something like "yeah, I said where I was going, just for a drink". Never once mentioned me by name or said "her" even though he said he had told his mum loads about me.

Could be wrong but I think I'm quite an intuitive person.

Yeah the 'mum' phone call sounds suspect to me, unless she was asking him if he wanted his fish fingers and chips kept warm in the oven for when he got home.

Haha Getting a bit depressed with this dating lark, it's fun in a way but all I really want is a nice chap to spend time with and have a nice life with. Surely there have to be some like that out there!