wife said she doesn't love me has pnd

[mattsmith93]

Hi, I've recently been told by my wife that she doesn't love me like she used too anymore, she said she still loves me but its not the same way that she did, she says shes felt like this for months. Ever since she's said it she been really affectionate but I don't know if it cos she feels guilty or whether she said I because of her post natal depression.

Is she getting treatment for PND? Has her behaviour been out of character in other respects? It's a pretty mean thing to say to someone.

Love does change over time, especially after children. It's not all romance and butterflies. Give her time, support her PND treatment (which I hope she is getting, because she will need it). The affection is probably her attempt to spice things up a bit and get that lovey dovey feeling back, which depression can rob you of feeling. Time will heal this one, so long as she is getting help for her PND.

She isn't having any treatment for her pnd, she doesn't want any pills or counselling, I've been trying to encourage her to get help for her pnd. She says she has felt like this since just before our daughter was born but I think she is just saying it. He behaviour has been a lot different she is very cold and it is like she has given up but other days she goes back to being the woman I fell in love with.