How to feel better after the end of a relationship - wallow or keep busy?

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When a relationship ends is it best to cry, feel sorry for yourself, play sad songs?

Or should you put on a brave face, keep busy and have a 'your loss' attitude?

Which one helps you heal the quickest?

Keep busy in my opinion. I allowed myself to cry until I put my make up on, then no more for the day.

Hope you feel better soon, it will pass I promise.

I'd say 90% industry, 10% wallowing. I personally find wallowing too draining to give over too much time to it.

Brill advice.

Busy, busy, busy, if I feel myself starting to get down or angry I start cleaning or go out. I don't want to be angry and sad as am not usually that sort of person. Most times this works but there have been plenty of wallowing days but I try to draw a line under them and start fresh the next day. I agree with patatas about the crying until I put my make up on. And every day that passes I know I'll be ok and so will you

Oh that nearly made me cry!

Busy!

Which when your left holding the dc and with no financial support as I was you find yourself being busy without trying!

I remember the worst times were when I was alone in my car, driving to work, my mind idling. All other times I could divert myself and find something else to think abiut but, even with loud music on the radio, the car was difficult.

To keep busy all the time is to suppress very natural, normal feelings of grief at the loss of something.

Grieve, but don't wallow. Let the feelings move through you. Don't suppress, or numb them with the drug/s of your choice (which includes food). Sit quietly and be with them. Nothing else is needed.

And also keep busy.

It's about balance.

Yes that's why I was asking. Is it healthy for those feelings of sadness/anger/whatever to be suppressed?

Allow yourself time to cry. It helps with healing.

I did get to the stage where I cried less and then was able to say, "enough Cotton, enough" and pushed those thoughts out of my mind and got on with my day.

Sadness, anger, grief - it's all part of healing.

I personally couldn't listen to sad songs. Music is very important to me and I listened to uplifting music instead.